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LOL! Dearie, you're much too young and immature to be engaged. The fact that you saw no value in what I wrote only confirms that.
And no, I'm not mistaken. I saw your prior posts in response to those who said something that you didn't like. Yup, you were brought down.
Now run along and go grow up, mkay?
Who are you to make judgements about me?
You think I'm young and immature and need to grow up, yet you're the one trying to bait me and insult on an anonymous forum, real mature. Not going to happen, from now on you shall be ignored. Good bye.
I didn't mention it in the beginning, but him and I are engaged. His dad lives 45 minutes away. He'll have to drive 2 hours to work every day and 2 hours back. He works nights (10 pm - 7 am) and sleeps all day. I'll be starting school soon as well as working. I just don't see us staying as close as we are if I'll hardly ever get to see him. All the time you hear about couples breaking up/divorcing because of distance. It's going to be hard to have any quality time to keep our relationship strong if he's so far away and we're both busy as heck.
We had a talk a little bit ago and decided that he'll move back in with his dad in about a month. I just don't see this ending well for our relationship. He thinks we'll be fine, but I know the strain distance can put on a relationship.
Welcome to grown-up life. I work full-time and am in grad school full-time. I see my boyfriend occasionally on the weekends but not every weekend. Life doesn't always work into neat little boxes, sometimes people have to compromise.
You think I'm young and immature and need to grow up, yet you're the one trying to bait me and insult on an anonymous forum, real mature. Not going to happen, from now on you shall be ignored. Good bye.
I am one of many who YOU asked to make judgements about your situation. So, we are judging both you and your bf in order to formulate and give you the opinions you asked for. It's kind of the purpose of a message board. It's not a place to come to to get confirmation of your righteous opinion of your bf's "immaturity" and actions. You can get that with your BFF's, who'll support you even when you're wrong.
i noticed you're not upset about anyone pointing out your bf's "immaturity."
And no, I'm not trying to bait and insult you. You asked for opinions, and you got them. Mine and everyone else's who posted here.
You think I'm young and immature and need to grow up, yet you're the one trying to bait me and insult on an anonymous forum, real mature. Not going to happen, from now on you shall be ignored. Good bye.
Nimz, promise, no one here is trying to "judge" you or hurt you.
We are giving you the benefit of our wisdom that's all.
I know it's hard to hear things you don't want to hear or don't actually believe, but we wouldn't be doing you any favors if we coddled you right now like a little girl okay?
Try to take your ego out of this long enough to just look at the facts of the situation as many of us have laid them out okay? Really really hoping to help you gain some perspective here!
You think I'm young and immature and need to grow up, yet you're the one trying to bait me and insult on an anonymous forum, real mature. Not going to happen, from now on you shall be ignored. Good bye.
Actually your own words dug your grave sweetie. Your attitude is defiant and immature and almost every single person picked up on that. And by the way, when you post on a forum you will get a variety of replies. Being rude to people who have taken the time to think about your situation and advise you accordingly, is in poor form.
1. I'd much rather have lived with my own parents than my boyfriend or fiance's parents when I was 21 or 22.
2. If your relationship can't survive a month of being 45 minutes away from each other - then you don't have a strong relationship to begin with. My husband and I only saw each other once every 3 or for weeks for years - and we survived just fine.
3. You guys are only 21 and 22. Did you go to college? Are you in college? Do you have the ability to earn above minimum wage? I see no reason to live on your own if you can't afford it. If you can stay with your respective parents for a year or so to save some money - I'm not sure what the big deal is.
4. Being engaged doesn't really mean anything, to be honest. Lots of people get engaged when they are really young and don't end up getting married. You either get married or you don't. Do you have a date set yet? Are you planning your wedding?
5. If you can't talk to him about these things - then your relationship doesn't have a strong foundation. Strong relationships are built on communication. My husband and I can and do talk to each other about everything. I don't need to ask advice from other people because only HE knows what he is thinking and only HE can make me feel better about US.
You don't turn people into who you want, you date them and decide if they ARE who you want.
He is doing what HE wants.
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You don't turn people into who you want, you date them and decide if they ARE who you want.
He is doing what HE wants.
Yup. This pretty much nails it.
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Not going to happen, from now on you shall be ignored. Good bye. 
