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Old 10-16-2013, 10:06 AM
 
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It's not an idiotic standard, since most guys know they're getting woman #3 but don't press the issue as long as the woman isn't being a fool. In other words, if she at least PRETENDS she has some class, then most guys will just put in the back of their mind. If she takes every chance she gets to talk about all the guys she's been with, then guys will call her a ho.

As for how you talk about "most guys," I won't be like the women on here and deny the truth just because it's a generalization. You're absolutely right. Most guys are total hypocrites about this. But the women are complicit in it, for one. And speaking just for myself, I'd be thrilled to have someone who sucked in bed who hadn't been getting drilled by ten guys.
Agreed

Not that I am a prude but I'm a very eligible bachelor and I don't deserve someone who's been lambasted like that

All girls in my life, especially the current one who I'm super devoted to, were in long term multi year relationships and single digit SO's. To me, it was a sign of their stability and I can see a pattern that they never cheated on their partners.

 
Old 10-16-2013, 10:08 AM
 
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I am an extremely faithful gf in all of my LTR's. What I do when I am single has no bearing or reflection of me as a person/girlfriend.
But it does, regardless of whether you want it to or not. If you had a boyfriend and you were faithful, but you told him "oh, by the way, whenever I don't have a boyfriend I have sex with a different man every day of the week, tee hee hee" he'd most likely dump you immediately. You know that, so pretending that it doesn't matter is just your rationalizing your behavior.
 
Old 10-16-2013, 10:08 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Since you're promiscuous yourself, of course your opinion is that it doesn't sound promiscuous. It's not really a relevant post.

What makes you think I'm promiscuous? What is your definition or promiscuous? Is having sex with one person a year promiscuous? Sure doesn't sound like it to me. Heck, if a person is dating and has a five year relationship (monogamous), then they break up, she (or he) takes a year off then dates 4 men over the next four years, that is 5 partners in 10 years. Is that promiscuous? It isn't under any standards I've ever heard, unless a person is a total prude. Double that number is still isn't. People date, they have sex more often than not as part of that. That isn't being promiscuous.
 
Old 10-16-2013, 10:10 AM
 
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Men, this question is for you and woman can answer if they want to.

Woman 1- She had unprotected sex with many men and now has a child out of wedlock. To make things worse, she does not know who the father of her child is.

Woman 2- She had unprotected sex with many men and now has an STD or HIV.

Woman 3- She had casual sex with men and been in romantic relationships with them for years, protection and birth control, and never had an STD or HIV and she has no children.

Woman 4- She was married with children and her husband died of unpreventable and unforeseen circumstances.

Which woman would you choose and why?

Cripes, it sounds like you have walked into a fabric shop and are comparing all the different fabrics in the shop NOT looking for someone to have a long term loving relationship and marriage with.
 
Old 10-16-2013, 10:10 AM
 
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But it does, regardless of whether you want it to or not. If you had a boyfriend and you were faithful, but you told him "oh, by the way, whenever I don't have a boyfriend I have sex with a different man every day of the week, tee hee hee" he'd most likely dump you immediately. You know that, so pretending that it doesn't matter is just your rationalizing your behavior.
Never had an issue with this IRL.

Always honest, guys I date understand because they too have had past relationships and past sexual partners.

Never had an issue with a guy committing to me because of it.
 
Old 10-16-2013, 10:10 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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But it does, regardless of whether you want it to or not. If you had a boyfriend and you were faithful, but you told him "oh, by the way, whenever I don't have a boyfriend I have sex with a different man every day of the week, tee hee hee" he'd most likely dump you immediately. You know that, so pretending that it doesn't matter is just your rationalizing your behavior.

If he did he was an A-hole and she deserves better. But there is a HUUUUGE difference between hooking up with someone different every week and dating someone for a couple of months and then dating someone else (while you're looking for the right person) over many years.
 
Old 10-16-2013, 10:11 AM
 
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Not that I am a prude but I'm a very eligible bachelor and I don't deserve someone who's been lambasted like that
It's not even about being a prude. Who wants to be with someone that pretty much everyone has had? Like, let's say you're a successful guy with a good job and a good income. Why would you marry some woman who has has sex with a dozen guys who are just randoms who she ran into at the gym or down at the beach? Why not just hook up with her and dump her like they did? What's the point of investing anything in her?

It's just common sense. No guy wants to be with a woman who is easy.
 
Old 10-16-2013, 10:11 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Never had an issue with this IRL.

Always honest, guys I date understand because they too have had past relationships and past sexual partners.

Never had an issue with a guy committing to me because of it.

You wouldn't want to commit to any guy that would have an issue with it. Just as I as a guy wouldn't want to deal with woman like that. Prudes and hypocrites don't make good partners.
 
Old 10-16-2013, 10:12 AM
 
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I'm not seeing the benefit of marrying someone who "sucks in bed," i.e. someone you already don't enjoy having sex with. Because if you have sex and don't get married, you do realize you're one of the faceless pump-and-dump bad boys in her past.
 
Old 10-16-2013, 10:12 AM
 
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Never had an issue with this IRL.

Always honest, guys I date understand because they too have had past relationships and past sexual partners.

Never had an issue with a guy committing to me because of it.
That's fine, if you're honest about it. I'm just always amazed at how many people online say they are completely open about how many people they've had sex with and supposedly nobody minds. And yet in real life everyone lies and everyone minds.
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