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By the way, if women really cared about the color white, then almost none of you should be wearing white to your weddings. So I never get how women are like "no, I can wear white because I'm 25, but she can't because she's divorced." Uh ...who cares, since you've been getting nailed, too?
I don't think you're quite comprehending what people are saying to you
I get what people are saying. There is a way to respond tactfully and truthfully in situations where you might tell a white lie. Got it. I think it's probably best for me to avoid or not answer questions where my answer may come off as rude.
I know I lack a filter.
Today my bf and I were talking about something and I gave him my honest opinion (as I always do). He proceeded to tell me that a little white lie about some things occasionally, wouldn't kill me.
What does everyone think about being too truthful all the time in a relationship??
Is there room for the occasional white lie to keep everyone happy?
The trouble is coming to some agreement about what a "white lie" might be.
There are plenty of people who think cheating on their spouse and hiding that information is a "white lie."
The reality is, there are people who feel that by NOT saying everything that's on their mind, they are being dishonest. I don't necessarily agree. Every thought in my head, uncharitable or not, doesn't always need to be shared...sometimes, it serves no purpose to share, particularly if it is uncharitable, and keeping it to myself is really going to be of no consequence, and certainly won't harm me any to do so.
To use the hypothetical example...to be really straightforward, who really CARES if you hypothetically think his hypothetical mom should or shouldn't hypothetically wear a hypothetically white wedding dress? Is it necessary to share your opinion on something that, ultimately, nobody really cares about your opinion on, particularly if it's something in the past. Is it necessary to comment on something in a way that will only serve to hurt someone's feelings? What is served by speaking your mind on the topic?
Not blurting out every unnecessary negative comment in your head doesn't make you dishonest, it makes you considerate and respectful. It's usually best to ask yourself what purpose is served by speaking your mind, and what are the repercussions, if any, of not doing so. Worth it to speak out, at the risk of hurting others, especially if it won't hurt you in the slightest to keep your mouth shut? Probably not. It's just a matter of respect and consideration. Critiques of others are not always necessary.
A lie is sweet in the beginning, bitter in the end, truth is bitter in the beginning, sweet in the end.
So! Someone needs to brush up on their lying skills!
I'm lucky, I'm an extremely intuitive person, where there's absolutely no need for someone to be honest with me, as there's other telltale signs that will bring out the truth.
There are many people who use the excuse of "being brutally honest" are usually just rude.
I don't deal with those types of people.
I don't consider it "rude" when I told my husband years ago that I want the truth no matter how "brutally honest" it is.
I'm a big girl and wear my big girl panties everyday and I can actually handle the truth. It may hurt to hear it but it is better than a lie.
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