What to do when a crush's family member is in hospital? (date, woman)
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I posted about a week ago. A girl in my class seemed like she was interested. I texted her, no reply...I didn't think she knew who it was...she called me so I could save her number in my phone. I don't think she saved my number in her phone.
We were supposed to meet up and study for the test. Well Wednesday came along and she no-showed for the test. After class I was like screw it I'm going to text her. I texted her she texted back. She said her father was in the hospital with heart problems. I said I hope he is ok, sorry to hear that. I went on about how my father had throat cancer and is still alive and that she seems like a strong person im sure she gets it from him.
She responded back pretty quickly to my texts and she just said wow that's rough im glad your dad is doing well my dad will be ok and I definitely get it from him.
I just left it at that. Any suggestions. I don't want to be insensitive or pushy when her father iis in the hospital but she's very attractive and has a down to earth personality.
Be supportive but don't be putting moves on her . she's vulnerable. Be mindfull of her feelings and fears ,be there to listen to her and share your feelings as well IF SHE ASKS. The relationship should not be built on tragedy, so give her time to get through it . You might even find out the kind of relationship she has with her dad, That can be a clue as to the kind of relationship she might expect out of the person she hopes to connect with.
You know her better than we do, apply the "Brad Pitt" test on her. Imagine that instead of you, Brad Pitt had asked this same woman to study with him. Would she use the same excuse with him? If Brad Pitt asked her to study with him, would she still say she can't do it because her father was in the hospital with heart problems?
Based on the responses to other threads in this forum, I would say that the consensus is you move on.
And before anyone complains, that's the advice always given. You show interest, no reciprocation? Tell them to eff off and move on.
UM NO, don't tell her to eff off (what is wrong with you guys!?)
Just back off and let her set the tone for what your friendship/relationship will ultimately entail. I hope that even if she doesn't indicate she wants to date you. you won't just blow her off as a friend. Then she will know that all your "concern" was fraudulent.
UM NO, don't tell her to eff off (what is wrong with you guys!?)
Just back off and let her set the tone for what your friendship/relationship will ultimately entail. I hope that even if she doesn't indicate she wants to date you. you won't just blow her off as a friend. Then she will know that all your "concern" was fraudulent.
Why does she get to decide how their friendship should be? nonsense, let her decide nothing.
OP, go right ahead and waste your time pursing someone who is not interested, OR you can spend your time finding someone who is; its your choice.
Why does she get to decide how their friendship should be? nonsense, let her decide nothing.
OP, go right ahead and waste your time pursing someone who is not interested, OR you can spend your time finding someone who is; its your choice.
Because he has already made all the moves he can. He has showed her that he likes her and wants to be her friend or more. He put the offer on the table, so of course it is now her decision which it will be. That seems sort of...obvious?
Because he has already made all the moves he can. He has showed her that he likes her and wants to be her friend or more. He put the offer on the table, so of course it is now her decision which it will be. That seems sort of...obvious?
Its also obvious she isn't acknowledging him. But its ok, if he wants to be in the friends folder, so be it; hear its a lovely place to be in. Lol
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