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In my honest opinion, some women need to get over themselves. When I approach a woman to talk to her, I just want to talk and I'm only being friendly. I never bring up sex at all. I offered to help a woman with a paper in my college class she accepted my help. She then said "I won't have sex with you." I looked at her with a wtf look. I said "I'm just being friendly to you and helping you, get over yourself." Seriously, why do most women think this way? Did it ever occur that some men are just being friendly to you? When I'm being friendly to a woman, that's it.
Because we do want sex. And why do you think women put make up and wear revealing clothing if not to attract that sexual attention from men? Don't be naive.
Women know what we want from them but they also know what they want from us. If you can provide that (it varies from a women to women and situation to situation) the deal is made and you get sex.
By the way, do you often find yourself approaching and talking to unattractive women you never met before? I dont think so. LOL
Because we do want sex. And why do you think women put make up and wear revealing clothing if not to attract that sexual attention from men? Don't be naive.
Women know what we want from them but they also know what they want from us. If you can provide that (it varies from a women to women and situation to situation) the deal is made and you get sex.
By the way, do you often find yourself approaching and talking to unattractive women you never met before? I dont think so. LOL
Um...I wear makeup and wear nice clothing (not necessarily revealing though) and it has nothing to do with attracting the male gaze.
WebMD says, "Study after study shows that men's sex drives are not only stronger than women's, but much more straightforward. ...It's common wisdom that women place more value on emotional connection as a spark of sexual desire. But women also appear to be heavily influenced by social and cultural factors as well." Ok so men are horny more often. That is not the bad thing. It's only bad when also horny women like to denigrate men as one dimensionally immoral because they are more enthusiastic about 'gettin' some'.
WebMD says, "Study after study shows that men's sex drives are not only stronger than women's, but much more straightforward. ...It's common wisdom that women place more value on emotional connection as a spark of sexual desire. But women also appear to be heavily influenced by social and cultural factors as well." Ok so men are horny more often. That is not the bad thing. It's only bad when also horny women like to denigrate men as one dimensionally immoral because they are more enthusiastic about 'gettin' some'.
Part of it could also be that 'gettin some' for a guy has FAR less consequences than with a woman. I have to worry about pregnancy, STDs are more easily transmitted from man to woman (and condoms aren't 100%) and, for me at least, I don't like the feeling of someone using me for sex and nothing more. Some people are fine with that, but it's just not for me.
Nope. You are only put in the friends zone when a women finds you not attractive enough to have sex with.
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Originally Posted by JetJockey
Not true. If there is no 'spark' or chemistry she will not want to be with you romantically either. I've known plenty of good looking men that I'd NEVER want to be with.
I'm with you on this JJ--I have male friends that got put in the FZ because there's no chemistry and they are both quite good looking. I love these guys--they are fun and fun to talk to and easy on the eyes but if I don't feel it, I just don't and no amount of "services" is going to change my mind. OTOH, I once dated and fell in love with a man who most would have called ugly but there was so much chemistry I was practically obsessed with him for months, and again, no amount of services or lack thereof would have changed things. It's pheromones, not looks, guys.
I'm with you on this JJ--I have male friends that got put in the FZ because there's no chemistry and they are both quite good looking. I love these guys--they are fun and fun to talk to and easy on the eyes but if I don't feel it, I just don't and no amount of "services" is going to change my mind. OTOH, I once dated and fell in love with a man who most would have called ugly but there was so much chemistry I was practically obsessed with him for months, and again, no amount of services or lack thereof would have changed things. It's pheromones, not looks, guys.
Yep. And I do think it's difficult for many men to empathize with this because they can't fathom someone becoming more or less attractive once personality and chemistry is involved. To them, hot is hot period, it's far more black and white.
Part of it could also be that 'gettin some' for a guy has FAR less consequences than with a woman. I have to worry about pregnancy, STDs are more easily transmitted from man to woman (and condoms aren't 100%) and, for me at least, I don't like the feeling of someone using me for sex and nothing more. Some people are fine with that, but it's just not for me.
Exactly. We are not the ones facing direct consequences but also culturally sex was always a way for women to advance socially and economically. Cinderella was only dreaming about marrying a prince. Why a prince? LOL
Not true. If there is no 'spark' or chemistry she will not want to be with you romantically either. I've known plenty of good looking men that I'd NEVER want to be with.
And what is that you call a spark or chemistrty if not sexal attraction? One problem with men-women communication is that women use different terms than we do. It's all semantics. Nothing else.
In my honest opinion, some women need to get over themselves. When I approach a woman to talk to her, I just want to talk and I'm only being friendly. I never bring up sex at all. I offered to help a woman with a paper in my college class she accepted my help. She then said "I won't have sex with you." I looked at her with a wtf look. I said "I'm just being friendly to you and helping you, get over yourself." Seriously, why do most women think this way? Did it ever occur that some men are just being friendly to you? When I'm being friendly to a woman, that's it.
Good for you for being outgoing and friendly! I don't think "most women" do think that way, but an awful lot of men say that the only reason men talk to women is to eventually score. I guess you don't agree with them. What a refreshing change of pace!
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I don't think "most women" do think that way, but an awful lot of men say that the only reason men talk to women is to eventually score. I guess you don't agree with them. What a refreshing change of pace!
