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Self explanatory.
I've been doing the online dating thing for a month. I let guys know that I'm interested in a long term relationship,but the end up trying to sleep with me. Why do you guys do this? I'm not interested in hooking up. I already have a fwb. That's not boyfriend material by the way
When I was perpetually feeling my desires, I frequently wanted to "sleep" with a woman and that was it. Unfortunately for both parties, here in 'Merika, prostitution is illegal. I can't speak for other men, but I pay professional girls to leave not for the booty call. Therefore, in my youth, I would manipulate various women into bed because that's all I wanted from them due to the fact that I painfully suffered from primeval urges 24/7. Ironically, now that I no longer care about women for "the deed" or dating, I get them coming to me with the same urges I used to take to them.
That's why I used and manipulated a lot of women I had absolutely no desire to have a relationship with.
if women are as picky as this forum suggests, who exactly is having instant sex with losers? doesn't that make the dateless and sexless the real losers?
Ironic isn't it. Guys with all their ducks in a row, careers and manners, end up walking around with blue balls for months/years at a time, solely because they make a great BF/future husband material. First step to treating sex as a weapon and a negotiating tool.
much like most attractive, young women, OP reserves the right to have sex right away, but only in FWB type situations or in case she meets someone who isn't a LTR material, like a loser or someone who treats her like crap. If she meets a guy who is LTR material and treats her well, she makes him walk around with blue balls for 90+days, while lying to him about screwing losers the moment she meets them. So very typical. LMAO.
Self explanatory.
I've been doing the online dating thing for a month. I let guys know that I'm interested in a long term relationship,but the end up trying to sleep with me. Why do you guys do this? I'm not interested in hooking up. I already have a fwb. That's not boyfriend material by the way
The same reason you accept drinks from men at the bar but you have no plans on sleeping with them
I can usually spot the ones who truly only desire something casual. I haven't been attracted to men around my age since I first entered the dating scene. Roughly 90% of the men I have gone out with have been 8-15 years my senior. Most have been in their late 30's to early 40's. My last two serious partners were 42 and 40 respectively and my current partner is 38. I have far more in common with older men due to being in similar stages of life, having similar interests and desiring similar things.
Most men around my age are more into casual/serial dating, which isn't my thing, and I have discovered I have much less in common with them. I mean, I'm coming out of a decade long marriage that produced children. Those who have been in a similar situation understand and relate to such history/experience.
I'm no prude. I'm a highly sexual individual. I simply desire more than a purely sexual arrangement. At this point in my life I desire more where something casual simply does not suffice. There are men out there who share the same desire, so don't lose hope.
Ironic isn't it. Guys with all their ducks in a row, careers and manners, end up walking around with blue balls for months/years at a time, solely because they make a great BF/future husband material. First step to treating sex as a weapon and a negotiating tool.
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Seen this a lot, it's rather disappointing that you have to jump through hoops even during a relationship where other more "unruly" characters get it without much effort. I believe if she makes him wait, she's really not that into him and is stringing him along because he doesn't know any better.
OP, don't get rid of the FWB, do not listen to these jealous men on this forum. Keep dating and you will meet someone worthy, it happens when you least expect it, this is from woman to woman!!!
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OP, don't get rid of the FWB, do not listen to these jealous men on this forum. Keep dating and you will meet someone worthy, it happens when you least expect it, this is from woman to woman!!!
As a guy, I agree. No reason to get rid of the FWB. The guy probably has one too.
Ironic isn't it. Guys with all their ducks in a row, careers and manners, end up walking around with blue balls for months/years at a time, solely because they make a great BF/future husband material. First step to treating sex as a weapon and a negotiating tool.
I believe the same guys usually also believe that a woman who is sexually forward or even too "easy" is written off as a ****, because then the man has to worry about fidelity and even paternity. Who else has she let in, etc. So you all dance around and around.
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