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Old 10-25-2013, 08:35 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Good to know. They're not alone!
Agnes needs more bengay.
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Old 10-25-2013, 08:39 PM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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Lol! You went in there with her!? What no female relatives!?
It was a male I was visiting/looking after. We went way back. The marriage proposal by the old gal was a very awkward moment. lol.
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Old 10-25-2013, 08:40 PM
 
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Anytime really IMO.

The key is to consider time, place and space. Always be prepared for that subtle ice-breaker without getting the creep stamp. A mature guy knows the when to make a move on a woman without indecision. Think before you act and move but don't think too much. Leave a little room for improvisation. You never know if you don't try but you have to be aware of your surroundings and hers. The wrong everything(time, place and space), might get you an answer that you might not be expecting in a bad way. You really can't blame her if you're a guy invading her space at an inappropriate time without a definite invitation to approach.

Some guys have better success in this because they understand the concepts of not crossing the line at first impression.
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Old 10-26-2013, 10:49 AM
 
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The problem is...

When men want a woman, they try to get her by the quickest means possible.

When women imagine themselves seduced, it includes conversation, something in common, courting, a gradual buildup.

Men don't get that.
Like sex.

Gotta kiss em, caress em, take em to dinner, delicately take them to your place with romantic words, lite sum good smellin candles, put on sum soft music, kiss em summor, caress em summor, slice up sum fresh fruit, let her enjoy those while you caress em summor, rubbing her feet, legs and back, play with her hair, lightly finger nail the sides of her neck given em goosebumps, when the fruits done pop open a bottle of wine while rubbin legs, pour em sum wine, lightly play with hair while removing clothing....

Yeah.

Or...

Lift her skirt and go at it!!!!!

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Old 10-26-2013, 11:14 AM
 
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While she is eating!!!
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Old 10-26-2013, 02:26 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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Ohhhhh yeah baby, back from my second 10 day ban. I love CD.

Ellie. Come on. You guys hear any jargon that remotely relates to PUA and you lose your mind.

Anytime you talk to a stranger or they talk to you, there was an approach. Whether you want to label it as approaching or conversing doesn't matter.

If I "actually talk to" a woman in public because I think she is attractive, am I hitting on her? Even if I'm not "approaching" her in your terms? You guys pick and choose what you want to complain about in the grey area.
Here's the deal, people have dated successfully over the past several decades in the modern era, long before your PUA silliness came along. In general, if you need PUA, it's because you're socially tone deaf and willing to join a cult to figure out fairly ordinary life skills.

My lost mind is sort of the that you feel when you encounter a .
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Old 10-26-2013, 04:40 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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I still believe you guys are clueless. Forget all of this "Approach" crap. You can SPEAK to a woman almost any time you can speak to any other person. Your idea that approaching a woman is somehow part of getting a date will more or less ensure an instant rejection.

Women like to feel comfortable, which is the exact opposite of feeling like they are being hunted or targeted for immediate brownie points.

Take lessons on improving your conversation skills. Women will more friendly and easier to get to know if you actually talk to them.
+100


I am on my phone, please forgive the typos.
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Old 10-26-2013, 04:48 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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The problem is...

When men want a woman, they try to get her by the quickest means possible.

When women imagine themselves seduced, it includes conversation, something in common, courting, a gradual buildup.

Men don't get that.
Notice how porn for men has some random "hot girl" walking by and having sex with the guy in 30 seconds or less. And porn for women starts with a date, conversation and foreplay. : P


I am on my phone, please forgive the typos.
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Old 10-26-2013, 05:07 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I still believe you guys are clueless. Forget all of this "Approach" crap. You can SPEAK to a woman almost any time you can speak to any other person. Your idea that approaching a woman is somehow part of getting a date will more or less ensure an instant rejection.

Women like to feel comfortable, which is the exact opposite of feeling like they are being hunted or targeted for immediate brownie points.

Take lessons on improving your conversation skills. Women will more friendly and easier to get to know if you actually talk to them.
Yep.

Every time these PUA threads come up I say the same thing.
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Old 10-26-2013, 05:21 PM
 
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The wrong time to approach a woman is when you're not good looking

Or any month with an 'r' in it.
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