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Ladies ladies, I said it could be either or, if you read it right
He could be married, he could have racial conflicts on the homefront. Either way, it's sending a bad vibe.
I agree....
I believe though, I would have a talk with him, and if he didn't understand, then, I'd move on...no matter what, it seems like the entire relationship is based on, "on his terms". What do you think?
Maybe he's embarrassed about his living situation... perhaps he lives with his parents or is a complete slob (or both). In any case, it's a little strange that he's acting that way...
I've been dating a guy for about 4 months. We have a pretty good relationship. We talk on the phone daily, send cute little text messages, and go on a date about once or twice a week. There is just one thing that bothers me. I have never been to his home, and he has told me that he never mentioned me to any of his family.
Also, I don't think it's a race issue, because he previously dated a black woman, who he did introduce to his mom.
Being Chinese, I think that he isn't serious enough about you to introduce you to his family yet. Maybe he's not worried about their disapproval but they want him to start thinking about settling down marriage-wise. Give him another two months before pushing the issue. Imo, dating once or twice a week isn't a serious relationship. I don't think that he cheating on you, but he's not into having a fulltime girlfriend yet either.
Being Chinese, I think that he isn't serious enough about you to introduce you to his family yet. Maybe he's not worried about their disapproval but they want him to start thinking about settling down marriage-wise. Give him another two months before pushing the issue. Imo, dating once or twice a week isn't a serious relationship. I don't think that he cheating on you, but he's not into having a fulltime girlfriend yet either.
Yes, I agree. I think this is more of a cultural family issue than a "low-down cheating S.O.B." issue.
I thought about the racial thing until you said that he has already introduced an AfricanAmerican to his family. Maybe that didn't go over too well.
I have Asian friends. They have a son in his 30's who has never married because his parents want to set him up with a nice Chinese gal and he's attracted to dark haired, blue eyed white women.
He wants to please them so he doesn't even date.
I've tried to get them to lighten up some but they have opinions so I keep my mouth shut now.
I think the guy you're dating falls into this category but I would have a talk with him and see where you stand.
The phone calls and the texts can keep you interested for so long and then it's time to move on.
Why not invite his folks over for dinner? Like Mommabear said, maybe they are all cramped into the house with the other family living there or the house is a mess and he is embarassed.
After reading your post, I had a lot of red flag feelings. Something is not right here. You deserve better.
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