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I think over half of the guys are kids ~21 years of age who are simply trying to have fun and get a rise out of other posters. Those are the ones who create the charts and outlandish theories and stuff. They're probably college kids procrastinating while studying for their midterms. Maybe somewhat socially backwards, but I have no doubt they'll do well in their 20s if they are decent looking.
The other half of the 'whiners' as you say are real guys who have faced a lot of rejection for various reasons, and I'd loosely put myself in this group. Those are the guys that you know from work, school, and your social circles who you have rejected, or can imagine doing badly with women. But you like them as people. There's some other posters who seem like nice dudes, but I don't want to name them by name.
Just normal dudes all around you. If my ex-girlfriends were to see some of the stuff I've posted, they'd be shocked I'm sure. I have some pretty bad moments, but at least I can admit it.
Sympathy makes this world a more bearable place.
To be a man is to know rejection (vis a vis women at least, but men are historically the risk takers in other areas of life as well...to risk big necessarily means losing big at times). It's a reality of the male condition and in no way makes you special as a guy.
I imagine they seem fairly normal in real life. However, if I were the "thought police", I'd not allow any of them to buy a gun. They're getting worse every day.
Think very carefully about what you just said there.
Well this is regarding all the posters online who for some reason claimed to have no luck in the dating or relationship world at all and have made thousands of posts about it. What I've noticed is the whiners are mainly male posters. There might be some angry women too but not at the same rate as the male posters lately.
I know for sure it's either probably unlikely I'll bump into one of those posters or if I do, I might not recognize him. However, if I were to know who he is and purposely date him for a couple days, will he act different or the same as he presented himself on forums?
Is it really that bad as they're claiming??? Or is it all in their minds???
I don't encounter nearly the same percentage of whiners in real life that I do on this forum. I think we're dealing with a very skewed sample of humanity, here.
I can't imagine. Two of my closest 3 friends are guys.
Do you ask about their feelings?
Probably because I don't have any guy friends (which I am sad about).
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Some men may be even more sensitive than most women.So no matter how much we hurt inside we will do our best to not let it be known. We feel it, but we won’t show it.
Me, OTOH, I am much nicer and more polite IRL and I use the forum to practice being less nice. Because my friends said I should.
But I have some (lots) of ambivalence about that, so my posts kinda alternate nice and cranky.
You're no different than anybody else on here. People will cut the crap and share their unfiltered thoughts with no social risk when you give them a relatively anonymous platform to rabble rouse on.
I don't encounter nearly the same percentage of whiners in real life that I do on this forum. I think we're dealing with a very skewed sample of humanity, here.
Well this is regarding all the posters online who for some reason claimed to have no luck in the dating or relationship world at all and have made thousands of posts about it. What I've noticed is the whiners are mainly male posters. There might be some angry women too but not at the same rate as the male posters lately.
I know for sure it's either probably unlikely I'll bump into one of those posters or if I do, I might not recognize him. However, if I were to know who he is and purposely date him for a couple days, will he act different or the same as he presented himself on forums?
Is it really that bad as they're claiming??? Or is it all in their minds???
It likely runs a spectrum of situations which my summary from another thread on Psych forum some time ago may provide insight. I surmise some are the same in real life while another group has legitimate concerns (socially inept) but do not know how to go about doing something about it. Then there's probably another group that just need to mature and experience more by, perhaps, reaching greater physical and emotional maturity or get over the hump, per se, when they actually meet someone that they can relate too and who reciprocate, creating a new found confidence.
I don't encounter nearly the same percentage of whiners in real life that I do on this forum. I think we're dealing with a very skewed sample of humanity, here.
That's what you think lol, as others have posted people act differently, sometimes very differently on the internet than in real life.
Any online relationship forum that is not deliberately regulated against male posters whining and Red Pill criticism of the current sexual marketplace will, inevitably, descend into a forum full of male whinners and Red Pill criticism of the sexual marketplace. Without heavy censorship, the future of the City Data Relationship forum is decidedly Red Pill.
With heavy censorship of "red pill" talk and regulation of what men are are "allowed" to complain about, you're basically left with a blue pill, feminist echo chamber like you see on Jezebel or Feministe. What fun would that be? Essentially you'd be proving what the "manosphere" suggests: that widespread dissent on this topic is intolerably dangerous to the agenda being pushed, and must be dealt with.
I prefer to see this place as the wild west. If you're a rad-fem or a red-pill'er, you better bring your helmet.
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