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I know I am, so why is it so hard to believe that there would be other people like me.
I know about a dozen unmarried childless, older friends/family.
There are lots of people like you. People do stay unmarried and childless through their 30's and into their 40's. It's not at all unusual anymore, though that varies by geographical location. And more people are choosing to be married and childless, as well. OP, if you're feeling pressure to marry in your 20's already, either learn to ignore that, or consider relocating to a more liberal area.
their is indeed tremendous social pressure to be paired up , Ive found myself being left out of things as ive gotten older for the crime of being single , I think its worse for guys , a bunch of women can still get together and do things in groups into their forties , bar playing football etc , guys cant really im considering pairing up with someone im not even attracted to , shes definatley into me enough , shes overweight and plain but at least I can have someone on my arm at the next ball
We’ve seen in this thread the suggestion to use graduate school as a social venue and a means of securing lifelong friendships. This is sound advice. However,…. I attended grad school in the late 1990s, in engineering, on the West Coast. Most of my former stablemates arrived very single and very nerdy, but somewhere between coursework, prelims, research and dissertation defense, managed to sufficiently flower so as to find a romantic partner. Single and moping in abject isolation at 25, happily (or at least contentedly) married by 30 or 32. Years later, nearly all have kids. Their families tend to be small – having one child is common – but few could be described as wholly child-free. In my “branch” at work, we have around 30 engineers. 29 are men. Of the 30, all but 3 are married: a widower, a fellow about to hit 30 (with a steady girlfriend), and yours truly. All but 4 have children (the exceptions being the two single guys, the widower and one young still-childless couple). So whereas grad school is a wonderful place to meet people, don’t expect the PhD to somehow obviate the normal marriage-and-children route. It is ubiquitous.
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I am 33, never been married, no kids. Some of the fights I see young or middle aged married couples get into....really helps me make sure I do not settle. You have to make sure you marry someone you cant live without, instead of finding someone you could live with. I am the same guy in many ways as I was in my 20's, but now in my 30's after life experiences, global travel, starting a company, MBA, etc, I have different desires and wants out of life and in a good woman.
What is true, is that once you get to 30's or higher the pickings are slim. The majority of women you meet out and about are divorced or single mothers. Its not so much the fact they are a parent or divorced as it is they often have jealous ex husbands or "baby daddys", and you are most likely never, ever, going to be #1. You will always take a back seat in the end. Not saying this is ALWAYS the case, but it happens. Its worth waiting for the right one. Just dont go crazy trying to find someone. Let it happen and it will when the time is right.
Eh, i have parts of family and a lot of society around me shunning me because I have not married or divorced by now. Hell, my family tried to get me to marry with anyone straight out of high school. That didn't go over too well.
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