Is it wrong to not tell someone you are dating that you are dating someone else? (cheating, couple)
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Sounds like you're bitter that she didn't pick you.
I didn't offer a serious relationship to her nor did I want one from her. I'm not bitter that it didn't work out. I was annoyed by her attempt to fool me.
My OP stated 2 discussions. One was that she had been meeting people online but hadn't dated anyone beyond the first meeting. That discussion was first and at that point she was telling me the truth. The second discussion was about her out of state friend that came to visit for a week. Obviously someone you meet on a dating site that travels by plane to see you twice isn't a friend. The effort was made by her to make the situation UNCLEAR. Here is how she could have made it clear: A guy I met on a dating site is flying in for a week to see me. There. Not hard at all to make clearer.
She lied. Thankfully there are plenty of other people out there, that don't.
This is something that happened a while ago. I was casually dating someone. It had just been 1-2 months. She said that she sometimes meets other people online, but they were just dates, not anyone that she ended up being interested in dating again. So she said a friend was coming into town to visit for a week. She was new to the area, so it seemed very believable that a friend from another state would visit. About a month later the friend visited again for a week. So I asked for details, because it would be very unusual for an out of state friend to visit again after a short time. It turned out that it was someone from a dating site, who soon after moved in with her. I think it would be fine if she didn't tell me what was up the first visit, since you never know if you will actually like the person you haven't met yet. But for her to say, that it's a friend visiting the second time is a lie. What do you think?
What she did was cruel and deceitful. She is trash. You're well rid of her.
I don't agree dude. If you're talking to a girl on a regular basis, both people shouldn't really be going on dates with anyone else whether or not they're "exclusive"
However, dating around is not a bad thing and if you only go out with a person once or twice there's no reason to worry about it. What this girl did in the OP was low class.
Wrong to not say. Some people are loyal. If there is a loyal person who is dating only with one person but this one person dates with ten others this loyal one would not even want to date with this multible dating person because multiple person already breaks loyal persons values. Multiple person steal loyal persons time, waste loyal persons time.
Last edited by soUlwounD; 10-30-2013 at 02:05 AM..
That is to say that the only object of dating is to find a life-partner?
Just because you're not looking for a life partner doesn't give you the right to lie to the person you're dating. No decent person does that to someone else.
Just because you're not looking for a life partner doesn't give you the right to lie to the person you're dating. No decent person does that to someone else.
^^This. If you're dating more than one person, and not being honest about it, you are obviously trying to hide something.
I don't think anyone is saying you can't date more than one person, but these things need to be stated up-front, so everyone knows where they stand and can make informed choices.
What I don't really understand is dating multiple people for several months. I can see that after one date maybe you're not quite ready to be exclusive with a person, but two months later and you still don't know? My impression is that you're not into any of them enough to to commit to just one. If all you want is dating, and your variety of dates are all aware, then no harm, no foul.
It's not something I could do, beause I was always looking for one person to have a relationship with, not multiple people to just have a series of dates with.
im going on a second date with a woman tomorrow nite but im also going on a first date with another girl on Saturday , the woman im going on the second date with is way more into me than im into her
I don't agree dude. If you're talking to a girl on a regular basis, both people shouldn't really be going on dates with anyone else whether or not they're "exclusive"
However, dating around is not a bad thing and if you only go out with a person once or twice there's no reason to worry about it. What this girl did in the OP was low class.
Agreed, I understand dating around and seeing different people if you're only going on a date or two, but once it goes past that and whether you are "exclusive" doesn't matter.
It's disrespectful to the person that you're seeing, it would tell me that you can't trust the other person.
This is one of the things I hated about dating, it felt like a game and there were so many rules and protocols that you had to follow.
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