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Maybe because he wants to be in a real relationship with her?
By way of example, if a guy has a girlfriend, there is an expectation of sexual exclusivity on both parts; something that may not happen with a FWB. There is also, hopefully, a level of emotional intimacy, a bond, which is not achieved with a FWB.
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By way of example, if a guy has a girlfriend, there is an implication of sexual exclusivity on both parts; something that may not happen with a FWB. There is also, hopefully, a level of emotional intimacy which is not achieved with a FWB.
Having a FWB or FWBs and dating someone are just very very different. The feelings, the experiences, the intent. It isn't like having a girlfriend without the commitment. The relationship is fundamentally different. Not better or worse, just different.
How many of you are ok with the person you've just started seeing that has a FWB, still sleeping with the FWB while sleeping with you at the same time.
Are you ok with your partner sleeping with someone else as long as its not a serious relationship yet?
I'm not sure. The way I see it is FWB are for periods in you life when you are not willing or able to date. Once you are ready and resume dating you should not need to be having sex with a friend. That's the way I treated the situation. On the other hand if someone just started dating they may not be dating you exclusively yet and could therefore be sleeping with someone else. I guess at the point we are ready for sex I would not be ok with a potential bf having sex with someone else.
Maybe because he wants to be in a real relationship with her?
By "real relationship" you of course mean strict monogamy. Yeah, sure, guys like that exist. I even happen to be one of them.
But I recognize I am in a minority. For most men, the difference between a FWB relationship and a "real" relationship is that the former gives them freedom, while the latter takes their freedom away. Many times, men settle for "real" relationships out of fear. Men fear that if they don't agree to strict monogamy, the women who are their primary partners will leave them. But given a full range of options, they would be perfectly happy to have a primary relationship and a number of FWB relationships on the side.
The real problem, as I see it, is not that men want sexual freedom. The real problem is that they are usually unwilling to allow women the same freedom. If, as a culture, we could let go of the idiotic idea that monogamy is the best fit got everyone, we'd be much better off.
9/10 that will be the person they cheat on you with when your exclusive
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