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Old 10-31-2013, 10:19 AM
 
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So if your SO was open to it, how many of you would be ok with it?

Also, what's your view on Open Relationships?
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Old 10-31-2013, 10:26 AM
 
Location: Hell, NY
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I would never be open to it. I don't shame others who are, but it's just not for me. Not in my D.N.A. I know that I could never be with somebody who wouldn't share my same beliefs. What is the true point of loving one person, when you would be sharing yourself with others? And vica versa. I just don't see the point. But that's just me.
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Old 10-31-2013, 10:27 AM
 
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So if your SO was open to it, how many of you would be ok with it?
negative

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Also, what's your view on Open Relationships?
it should continue to be legal
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Old 10-31-2013, 10:33 AM
 
Location: ATL with a side of Chicago
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Not for me. What other couples do is their business.
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Old 10-31-2013, 10:36 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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its not really a relationship if its open, imo, but I have no problems having fwb/fb
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Old 10-31-2013, 11:07 AM
 
Location: NC
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its not really a relationship if its open, imo, but I have no problems having fwb/fb
I mostly agree with the others, who (whatever their opinion is) say "to each their own". But to this comment, I would say it too is situational.

I've got open friendships. (Which BTW are relationships). They are really relationships, even though I have other friends.

I've got business relationships, that are really relationships, even though I've got other customers.

My mom loved me, even though she loved my brother and sister equally (if not differently), I still value our relationship.


My goal here is not to convince you it is OK for you, I can't do that. But just to try to encourage people to see things from eyes other than their own. (this is VERY hard, and I often struggle doing it.)

For me, I am OK with it up to a point. At some point, I guess it becomes time to settle down with the one I love. I'm not there yet.

In short, it's a good question, because it's a personal one, and each person can answer differently. No right or wrong answers, at least not universally right or wrong. Only at the individual level.

For me, I'm totally accepting of it. Right now I'm OK with it, and actually date without exclusivity. The reality is it has it's pros and cons, like everything else.

I'll think about it, may post more later. Timely question for me.....
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Old 10-31-2013, 11:14 AM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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its not really a relationship if its open, imo, but I have no problems having fwb/fb
Wrong!

Of course it's a relationship, just not a traditional one.

I have no problems with it as long it's on a limited basis and everything is out in the open.

I draw the line on cheating and lying. This type of arrangement needs to be discussed.
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Old 10-31-2013, 11:24 AM
 
Location: Sacramento, Ca.
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So if your SO was open to it, how many of you would be ok with it?
Not me. I dont share relationships. Dating however, is fair game.

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Also, what's your view on Open Relationships?
To each his/her own.
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Old 10-31-2013, 11:25 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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its not really a relationship if its open,>>>>imo<<<<, but I have no problems having fwb/fb



Wrong!

Of course it's a relationship, just not a traditional one.

I have no problems with it as long it's on a limited basis and everything is out in the open.

I draw the line on cheating and lying. This type of arrangement needs to be discussed.
nothing wrong with MY opinion, but if you like sharing your SO with strangers than that's cool. I do suggest, having her wash her mouth before you kiss her.
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Old 10-31-2013, 11:32 AM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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nothing wrong with MY opinion, but if you like sharing your SO with strangers than that's cool. I do suggest, having her wash her mouth before you kiss her.
I said I could be open to it on a limited basis and mentioned nothing about random strangers.

It can still be a valid relationship.
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