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Old 11-06-2013, 09:44 PM
 
Location: Washington D.C. Area
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Has anyone else noticed this?

When I look at older couples from my grandparents generation.. the men are a lot more dominant and the women are a lot more submissive. But when I look at all my friends from college who are getting married now or in serious relationships (I'm 30) they are all slaves. The woman makes the rules and they follow.

I think this is why I'm single. Many woman have tried to control me. All have failed.

I'm willing to compromise in a relationship but I'm not willing to be submissive. Most women today don't seem to want a real man. Sure.. they jump in my bed fast.. and seem to fall in love immediately... but that love dies fast once they realize I'm not going to just roll over and do whatever they want.

 
Old 11-06-2013, 09:47 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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Has anyone else noticed this?
I have not.
 
Old 11-06-2013, 09:49 PM
 
Location: Pa
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My dad was a real man. My brothers are real men.Yet all their wives are dominant?
 
Old 11-06-2013, 09:50 PM
 
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Haven't really noticed this, but I come off right away as dominant so maybe that's why.
 
Old 11-06-2013, 09:50 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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Has anyone else noticed this?

When I look at older couples from my grandparents generation.. the men are a lot more dominant and the women are a lot more submissive. But when I look at all my friends from college who are getting married now or in serious relationships (I'm 30) they are all slaves. The woman makes the rules and they follow.

I think this is why I'm single. Many woman have tried to control me. All have failed.

I'm willing to compromise in a relationship but I'm not willing to be submissive. Most women today don't seem to want a real man. Sure.. they jump in my bed fast.. and seem to fall in love immediately... but that love dies fast once they realize I'm not going to just roll over and do whatever they want.
No, I haven't noticed this.

That all of your coupled friends are "slaves" to the women in their lives seems implausible. It makes me suspect you are setting the bar for what constitutes slavery pretty low. Maybe you are the one with control issues.
 
Old 11-06-2013, 09:58 PM
 
Location: Washington D.C. Area
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No, I haven't noticed this.

That all of your coupled friends are "slaves" to the women in their lives seems implausible. It makes me suspect you are setting the bar for what constitutes slavery pretty low. Maybe you are the one with control issues.
They often need "permission" to hang out with their friends. Any man who needs a woman's permission to do something important to him is a slave in my book.
 
Old 11-06-2013, 10:01 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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They often need "permission" to hang out with their friends. Any man who needs a woman's permission to do something important to him is a slave in my book.
Most people check with their partners before making plans.

I don't know that I have noticed any relationships in which either partner dominated the other one. That doesn't seem very healthy to me.
 
Old 11-06-2013, 10:04 PM
 
Location: Washington D.C. Area
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Most people check with their partners before making plans.

I don't know that I have noticed any relationships in which either partner dominated the other one. That doesn't seem very healthy to me.
Its not healthy. But its very common.
 
Old 11-06-2013, 10:05 PM
 
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They often need "permission" to hang out with their friends. Any man who needs a woman's permission to do something important to him is a slave in my book.
Most married couples don't just do things without running it by the other. This is to prevent scheduling problems and conflicts. It's not really asking permission, but just checking with each other--out of respect.
 
Old 11-06-2013, 10:08 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Its not healthy. But its very common.
I haven't noticed it - so it doesn't seem common to me.
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