If guys online are so undesirable, why do women do online dating? (wives, husband)
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Yes but many women complain about lack of decent guys and most who message them are unattractive.
So if the odds online are so terrible for those women, why are they still on POF/okcupid etc?
I have a theory. Basically, women get more messages on average than men do. So even if 95% of it is "boobs plz" or similar drivel, there will be that remaining five percent that meets her (usually inflated) standards. Since online dating requires comparatively little time and energy, she can afford to sit back and let the messages roll in, and eventually find dates. Depending on her attractiveness and on the geographical context, that may happen in a few weeks, or perhaps a few months, but the point is it is viable in a way that it is not for a man in the world of OLD. There's little to no downside to online dating for a woman other than the minor hassle of updating or checking one's inbox every so often, and it's not like she can't look for guys offline while doing it either. Even if there's alot of bad messages a quick scan through every week for an hour or so will usually suss out the gems, unless we're talking literally hundreds of messages a day, in which case more husbanding would be required (it's still a better downside to have than having no responses at all.)
Reference the recent thread about 80% of men being found undesirable by women. No matter what, unless they went to a male model dating event (if they have such a thing) women are likely to find a large percentage of men unattractive at first glance, and with online dating they can afford to be picky and not give unattractive men to them a chance.
If a guy has money. Women will overlook certain things they are usually turned off by.
I have a theory. Basically, women get more messages on average than men do. So even if 95% of it is "boobs plz" or similar drivel, there will be that remaining five percent that meets her (usually inflated) standards. Since online dating requires comparatively little time and energy, she can afford to sit back and let the messages roll in, and eventually find dates. Depending on her attractiveness and on the geographical context, that may happen in a few weeks, or perhaps a few months, but the point is it is viable in a way that it is not for a man in the world of OLD. There's little to no downside to online dating for a woman other than the minor hassle of updating or checking one's inbox every so often, and it's not like she can't look for guys offline while doing it either. Even if there's alot of bad messages a quick scan through every week for an hour or so will usually suss out the gems, unless we're talking literally hundreds of messages a day, in which case more husbanding would be required (it's still a better downside to have than having no responses at all.)
LOL...why so scientific? My online experience has surprisingly been comparable to offline.
Lotto players don't complain about how they never win. They've accepted the odds already.
Honestly the ladies and gentlemen complain for many reasons. They have issues themselves or disappointment can take a toll on anyone. It's extremely frustrating.
Hold on...so majority of guys who hit on you are unattractive and you are holding yourself for that coveted 20%?
noo dude. I attract quite a mixed bag, regardless of where I've met guys.
That, and I'm not interested in mister 6 pack. Never really have been. I just want someone healthy and nice to be around. My last boyfriend (who I met online) was mister 6 pack. he was not for me, at all, but he approached me and gave him a chance.
Honestly the ladies and gentlemen complain for many reasons. They have issues themselves or disappointment can take a toll on anyone. It's extremely frustrating.
Exactly. I am questioning why complaining. It is irrational.
It is like me going to a lesbian bar trying to find women and complaining about lack of women giving me attention. Reality is odds are, I will probably be going home with no numbers 99% of the time.
Just like if you go online, odds are 95% of guys are undesirable.
How are these guys undesirable? I think these guys are pretty attractive (no homo) and I would average it out to 7/10.
If those guys messaged you with something simple like, "oh hey how is it going? You enjoy hiking? Well, there's a nice trail at XYZ I haven't conquered yet! "...You will simply ignore them?
Are the pickings really that slim or are the standards too high?
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