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While I get contacted more often by men who aren't my type, I've had good success with such sites. Well, I've met interesting and great people. Two serious relationships started as a result of OKC, and I briefly dated a few others. And I've dated some I met from PoF.
I much prefer OKC. It is the best of the dating sites, at least to me. I also think one only attracts what they put out. I try to attract those very similar to me, cerebral/intellectual and creative types. My profiles do a fine job of weeding out the undesirables.
Its agreed amongst women that most guys (95%+) who message you on OKCupid/POF are boring, dull, ugly, no career, no outlook, no personality etc
Correct?
Ok let's agree for argument's sake.
So then why do you still go online and make a profile and then complain about getting hit on by undesirable guys?
Seems pretty counter intuitive...
I do pretty horribly at bars/nightclubs. Thus, I stopped trying to get with girls at nightclubs. If I do go, it would be with friends and I would never complain about lack of attention because I have already accepted the odds.
I have only used Match, and if it were part of your thread, I would not agree with it.
How are these guys undesirable? I think these guys are pretty attractive (no homo) and I would average it out to 7/10.
If those guys messaged you with something simple like, "oh hey how is it going? You enjoy hiking? Well, there's a nice trail at XYZ I haven't conquered yet! "...You will simply ignore them?
Are the pickings really that slim or are the standards too high?
Some of them are actually pretty attractive. But I don't judge desirability based on appearance alone. And if I received a message like that I likely would ignore it. If one desires to grab another's attention, especially in the online medium, one has to actually put in the effort and be more creative with their first message.
For those who are truly interested in me, my profile actually invites them to respond in such a way that tells me they read my profile. Or that they greatly enjoyed it. My "type" does this. Others, well, it's mostly lost on them. Hence why I crafted it that way.
I have met some really nice guys on the personals and met some total whack jobs. I meet the same variety in person also. What I am looking for is different compared to other women. I want to find someone AT MY LEVEL. I am not a sugar momma, I have my own successfull career, my own hobbies and interests, my own set of friends etc. I am not looking for someone to be attached to my hip. The men that are situation usually are not used to a woman like that and get freaked out. They are used SAVE me woman. I don't need saving..I can bail myself out of trouble.
I'm not disagreeing on the pics aren't exactly eye catching, but it's hard for any person to convey the "perfect" pictures online. What one woman may like, two others will hate. What's so hard for most men, is they likely dumb down their profile pics, because they don't see much better from women.
The men I'm matched with in the upper 80's to high 90's on OKC actually put effort into choosing good photos. It appears as if a lot of the younger men, especially on PoF, are clueless about composition and what makes for a good photo.
Many dumb down their photos and their profile, on both ends. At least with OKC, that I have found, its matching system has been accurate and those I am matched with are actually desirable, both aesthetically and intellectually.
I have met some really nice guys on the personals and met some total whack jobs. I meet the same variety in person also. What I am looking for is different compared to other women. I want to find someone AT MY LEVEL. I am not a sugar momma, I have my own successfull career, my own hobbies and interests, my own set of friends etc. I am not looking for someone to be attached to my hip. The men that are situation usually are not used to a woman like that and get freaked out. They are used SAVE me woman. I don't need saving..I can bail myself out of trouble.
I dont have one guy friend that your bolded statement is true to my knowledge.
Just saying.
I would love to be a fly on the wall for some of these initial meets in which it is established that guys can't handle a successful woman. Is there kryptonite in your bag that makes guys lose their mind?
Again, I would LOVE to be a fly on the wall.
Wasn't there a reality show featuring successful adults who had really really bad relationship skills? I forget the name of the program. I think they should show a couple episodes of that in every sociology high school class in the country. "People, this is how NOT to act."
Some of them are actually pretty attractive. But I don't judge desirability based on appearance alone. And if I received a message like that I likely would ignore it. If one desires to grab another's attention, especially in the online medium, one has to actually put in the effort and be more creative with their first message.
For those who are truly interested in me, my profile actually invites them to respond in such a way that tells me they read my profile. Or that they greatly enjoyed it. My "type" does this. Others, well, it's mostly lost on them. Hence why I crafted it that way.
So basically for someone to get your attention, they need to have good looks AND a witty/creative message before you give them your attention?
I dont have one guy friend that your bolded statement is true to my knowledge.
Sometimes it takes a few months to materialize. The problem is what happens is if I have a day of meetings and can't take phone calls they have gotten really mad. Sent nasty text messages and when they find out I was in meetings are like well I thought you were ignoring me. Um no. If you keep acting like that YES I will ignore you and I tell them that.
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