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have you ever made a relationship work with someone you had nothing in common with?
I'm dating this girl who i thought was going to be similar to me since we are in the same social circle, but all we have in common is that we are physically attracted to one another.
i was wondering if aiming for a relationship with her was a lost cause.
have you ever made a relationship work with someone you had nothing in common with?
I'm dating this girl who i thought was going to be similar to me since we are in the same social circle, but all we have in common is that we are physically attracted to one another.
i was wondering if aiming for a relationship with her was a lost cause.
No matter how great the physical relationship is, there will be a point where you come up for air and look at her. Do you like to be around this person? Is she irritating? Boring? Will you be staring awkwardly at one another or fiddling with your phones to fill the space between you?
Last edited by JustJulia; 11-10-2013 at 05:02 PM..
NO. Absolutely not. There's no way in hell that would ever work for me. I've rejected very good-looking, gorgeous men, because there was no intellectual connection or shared interests. I can't do it.
I would get insanely bored in such scenario. Actually, the attraction to said individual would drop significantly if there's no connection beyond physical attraction.
I find intelligence extremely sexy. Huge turn on. Sapiosexuals are awesome!
all we have in common is that we are physically attracted to one another.
I've tried exactly that roughly 400 odd times throughout three decades, and it's not worked one time. In short order, things she/I initially found cute became annoying, and after a few months, resentful.
On a personal note, once I stopped having sex with women on the first/second night or early on, I found that their womanly wiles didn't work on me at all, and I could focus on how much we didn't have in common, so I could let her go to find somebody more appropriately matched for her tastes.
Good luck,
bolillo
Last edited by bolillo_loco; 11-10-2013 at 05:13 PM..
Reason: Failed Ann Landers 101
Lots of people have nothing in common and get together. All it takes is two people who WANT to make a common ground and they will push through the awkwardness and make it.
Lots of people have nothing in common and get together. All it takes is two people who WANT to make a common ground and they will push through the awkwardness and make it.
That's exactly what I did with my husband. Age is probably the only thing (tangible) that we have in common. Oddly enough I would not advise anyone else to do what we've done.
To bluevalentine, I don't think you and your new date are so different if you're "in the same social circle."
It depends if each of you are willing to take an interest in what you both like.
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