Hi,
Nothing to be done here but I guess I just need confirmation. At time time, I was new to town (I've since moved 1,000 miles away). We were only dating for two months, but they were great. She woke up one day and said "I don't want to do this anymore. I am so stressed between work and school." Between work, school (which didn't start for another 9 months!) and the relationship, she felt stressed out. "I just need some time to process". She said. "Process what?" I thought. She tried to justify her decision further by asking "don't you find it weird we never fight? Jess and her bf fight all the time." I didn't find it weird at all. It was healthy. Well, we cut contact. A few days later she called me telling me how she made a mistake and I was the best thing to ever happen to her. She asked for me back. I said "sure! as long as you go to home to meet my family with me". She said that she couldn't. This was the third time that "something" came up or some exuse for her not to meet my family. They lived 600 miles away. I know a little more effort went into meeting them vs her family, which were 50 miles. This was right around the holidays, and I planned a trip
after Christmas to see my family. The first time it was due to school. She would be all in favor of going, and even acted as if she was exicted to meet my family. A day or two before we'd be scheduled to leave (driving), *something* would come up. It was the same this time. "I want to stay home and cook dinner with my mom". Really? You can do that
anytime. It was the same thing with friends. I would go out and meet her friends with her for drinks or ice cream, but she never had any desire to meet mine. Again, something would come up!
I have spent several days with her family, and even her extended family, but she couldn't go, even for a few days to meet mine. I was upset and disapointed. We decided to go our own ways. It was hard to look in the corner of my room and see her Xmas presents stacked up. It was just days before Christmas. Why would someone be dead-set on
not meeting the other's family? I could understand if she met them, felt uncomfortable around them and didn't want to see them again. As heart-breaking as that would've been, I could've delt with that. We cut contact for a few months and then I saw she added me on Facebook. She wanted to do the whole "friends" thing, but I couldn't do that. I did add her on Facebook, but that was it. When she learned that I was moving (something I wanted to do for a while), she was shocked. Happy for me, but shocked. She wanted to meet one last time. We had lunch, it was fun. There were no feelings there (on her side, at least).
Last night I was cleaning up my Facebook and deleted her. I noticed a few months ago she got into a relationship. My heart sunk. Despite what she did to me, I was disapointed. Maybe, if I was seeing someone too, it wouldn't been so bad. I guess I just need to get this off my chest. If anyone has any advice, words of wisdom or "you were right for not taking her back" type of things.
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