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Old 11-14-2013, 07:45 AM
 
Location: Pa
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If I say yes, do I win something?

(I'm an opportunist)
You win a Neeeeeeeeeeeew Caaaaaaaar! Thanks Drew!
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Old 11-14-2013, 07:49 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I'm selling you high
You're gonna regret that in a few years when I'm through the roof!!!
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Old 11-14-2013, 08:56 AM
 
Location: USA
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What is with all this thinking that when a woman turns 30 she magically transforms into some old wrinkled hag? lol

I'm 37 and I still see women 10, 15, or even 20 years older than myself that I consider extremely attractive.
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Old 11-14-2013, 09:05 AM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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People in here are in strong denial.
Hello again.

No "denial" here, we see you very clearly
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Old 11-14-2013, 09:11 AM
 
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if they had options, they wouldn't be online looking for guys...
Hello?

They are online because they don't LIKE the options that they have in real life.

Or they exhausted the attractive guys IRL by dating them already.

I mean honestly? Single guys in their 50s will be jaded into having balls of steel. So, any guy that age who finds a 52 year old woman even remotely attractive is probably making a move and not being coy about it.
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Old 11-14-2013, 09:13 AM
 
Location: NYC
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CASE 1: at the age range that people (mainly women) want to marry, men are settling in their careers, which makes their income (and value) skyrocket.

women on the other hand, know that makeup cannot save them for much longer. their looks (which is their entire worth) begin to fade at the end of their 20s, and by the time they are around 34, it is far too late to find a man. no man wants to be stuck with an aging woman.

CASE 2: men who get more partners have a higher value. women typically need others to make up their minds for them. when one woman likes a man, more women like that man. it's why guys in relationships get hit on more. it's called pre-approval.

women, on the other hand, depreciate when having many partners. it's like a car with high mileage. no one wants one.
Are you currently single? The only people I know who always have such "us vs them" mentality are the ones who are hopelessly single.
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Old 11-14-2013, 09:30 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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CASE 1: at the age range that people (mainly women) want to marry, men are settling in their careers, which makes their income (and value) skyrocket.

women on the other hand, know that makeup cannot save them for much longer. their looks (which is their entire worth) begin to fade at the end of their 20s, and by the time they are around 34, it is far too late to find a man. no man wants to be stuck with an aging woman.

CASE 2: men who get more partners have a higher value. women typically need others to make up their minds for them. when one woman likes a man, more women like that man. it's why guys in relationships get hit on more. it's called pre-approval.

women, on the other hand, depreciate when having many partners. it's like a car with high mileage. no one wants one.
Does your mother know you're posting on an adult forum?

I have news for you: some women don't begin to come into their looks until their 30's, or later, even. The teen years are not the best years for many girls, as well as many boys. And like men, women come into their earning power in their 30's, and peak career-wise in their 40's and 50's.

More news: women really aren't keen on being stuck with a balding, paunchy man, either. Once you, OP, get out of middle school and into college, and your hair starts thinning, let us know how confident you feel then. Good luck.
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Old 11-14-2013, 09:41 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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strongly disagree. men don't lose value as they age. women realize when they're power is gone. otherwise, it wouldn't be a rush to find cuff a man in their late 20s. if they truly had power for ever, they wouldn't even want to settle down forever.
Do you live in the mid-West or the South? Those are the only places I know of where there's a rush to find a man in their late 20's. On the West Coast, there's no rush. Women tend to settle down much later. Men really don't have much going for them in their 20's, anyway. Especially now, with so many unemployed. After 40, some are already starting to look geezerly. So men's window of "value" can be very narrow. Discerning women are wise to take their time.
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Old 11-14-2013, 09:42 AM
 
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You win a Neeeeeeeeeeeew Caaaaaaaar! Thanks Drew!
This is me...

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Old 11-14-2013, 09:46 AM
 
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strongly disagree. men don't lose value as they age. women realize when they're power is gone. otherwise, it wouldn't be a rush to find cuff a man in their late 20s. if they truly had power for ever, they wouldn't even want to settle down forever. they aim to settle down forever when they realize they're in decline. whether YOU are unattractive to them, is a different story. and don't get me started on how men are suddenly seen as attractive when their income increases. there are actual studies done on that matter. women are bought at the end of the day.
Garbage, garbage, garbage.

Widowers chase widows left and right. Geezers chase women left and right. They want a woman to "take care of" them in their old age. Single women in the senior set tend to be done with that. They raised kids. Many of them were caregivers to their husbands when their husbands were ill.

As for rushing to find a man in late 20s, that is not something either I or any of my friends did. Likewise, in my late 30s, after my divorce, I had to beat the men back with a stick, and they were all over the map in terms of age, from 24 to 65. So much for "declining." I ultimately chose one who was 29 at the time, 10 years younger than I am, and we are still together. I'm 47 now and just two days ago someone was checking me out at the grocery, and I don't mean the cashier. I had to laugh to myself, because I thought, "those idiots on C-D should see this."

IF a woman starts getting more aggressive with finding men, it could be because she wants children. That is something they have to consider because child-bearing years are finite. But kid-free women like me, of which there are many? Nope. I've asked out two men in my entire life: One for prom, one in my mid-20s because it was a "speak now" situation where we were on a volunteer project and I might never run into him again. Other than that? I've never bothered with it. I've never had to. There has always been a selection, and there always will be. I can name a few men right now who would come around if my SO and I broke up. Furthermore, there is also the very real confidence that women gain in their 30s and are secure in themselves, their careers, and what they have to offer. Don't confuse that with desperation.

This board is riddled with threads that talk about how women have it so much easier in the dating world. I believe it's true, and I believe it's true for women of all ages. Men get most of their emotional support from women. Men can't have children without women. Many, if not most, men seek out women to care for them in their old age if they don't already have one. Men will always pursue women.

Women, on the other hand, tend to get emotional support from a broad network of friends and family, need only a ONS to get knocked up if they want a child badly enough, and after raising kids and seeing a husband die of a long illness, the last thing many, if not most, women want in their 50s and beyond is to be a caregiver yet again.

Oh, and one more thing: Women are graduating college and entering professions like medicine at higher rates than men. Relying on a man for food and shelter is pretty much a thing of the past for all but the poorest and least educated women. The trend now is for women to marry "down" in terms of socioeconomic status.

So you can talk crap about all of this all you like, but what you say has absolutely no basis in reality. Indeed, it sounds like the regurgitation of previous threads on here written by inexperienced young men who don't have much luck with women in an attempt to simultaneously express contempt for the young women who reject them and soothe themselves with the delusion that one day, when they're 40, they'll have nubile 22-year-olds panting after them.
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