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Old 11-14-2013, 09:51 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Garbage, garbage, garbage.

Widowers chase widows left and right. Geezers chase women left and right. They want a woman to "take care of" them in their old age. Single women in the senior set tend to be done with that. They raised kids. Many of them were caregivers to their husbands when their husbands were ill.

As for rushing to find a man in late 20s, that is not something either I or any of my friends did. Likewise, in my late 30s, after my divorce, I had to beat the men back with a stick, and they were all over the map in terms of age, from 24 to 65. So much for "declining." I ultimately chose one who was 29 at the time, 10 years younger than I am, and we are still together. I'm 47 now and just two days ago someone was checking me out at the grocery, and I don't mean the cashier. I had to laugh to myself, because I thought, "those idiots on C-D should see this."
Great reality check for the loser guys! This should be a CD-R "sticky" post!
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Old 11-14-2013, 09:54 AM
 
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Garbage, garbage, garbage.

Widowers chase widows left and right. Geezers chase women left and right. They want a woman to "take care of" them in their old age. Single women in the senior set tend to be done with that. They raised kids. Many of them were caregivers to their husbands when their husbands were ill.

As for rushing to find a man in late 20s, that is not something either I or any of my friends did. Likewise, in my late 30s, after my divorce, I had to beat the men back with a stick, and they were all over the map in terms of age, from 24 to 65. So much for "declining." I ultimately chose one who was 29 at the time, 10 years younger than I am, and we are still together. I'm 47 now and just two days ago someone was checking me out at the grocery, and I don't mean the cashier. I had to laugh to myself, because I thought, "those idiots on C-D should see this."

IF a woman starts getting more aggressive with finding men, it could be because she wants children. That is something they have to consider because child-bearing years are finite. But kid-free women like me, of which there are many? Nope. I've asked out two men in my entire life: One for prom, one in my mid-20s because it was a "speak now" situation where we were on a volunteer project and I might never run into him again. Other than that? I've never bothered with it. I've never had to. There has always been a selection, and there always will be. I can name a few men right now who would come around if my SO and I broke up. Furthermore, there is also the very real confidence that women gain in their 30s and are secure in themselves, their careers, and what they have to offer. Don't confuse that with desperation.

This board is riddled with threads that talk about how women have it so much easier in the dating world. I believe it's true, and I believe it's true for women of all ages. Men get most of their emotional support from women. Men can't have children without women. Many, if not most, men seek out women to care for them in their old age if they don't already have one. Men will always pursue women.

Women, on the other hand, tend to get emotional support from a broad network of friends and family, need only a ONS to get knocked up if they want a child badly enough, and after raising kids and seeing a husband die of a long illness, the last thing many, if not most, women want in their 50s and beyond is to be a caregiver yet again.

Oh, and one more thing: Women are graduating college and entering professions like medicine at higher rates than men. Relying on a man for food and shelter is pretty much a thing of the past for all but the poorest and least educated women. The trend now is for women to marry "down" in terms of socioeconomic status.

So you can talk crap about all of this all you like, but what you say has absolutely no basis in reality. Indeed, it sounds like the regurgitation of previous threads on here written by inexperienced young men who don't have much luck with women in an attempt to simultaneously express contempt for the young women who reject them and soothe themselves with the delusion that one day, when they're 40, they'll have nubile 22-year-olds panting after them.
It's absolutely right on most every point.

It's a brutal competition to the death for women until, well your death, really.

Play or don't play.
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Old 11-14-2013, 09:57 AM
 
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Great reality check for the loser guys! This should be a CD-R "sticky" post!
The handful of them who keep getting banned and coming back with new user names, in particular. Then again, if they can't take the hint, they're too thick to understand any post longer than a tweet if it doesn't already mesh with their ludicrous ideas of women.

There really should be a social IQ test that people have to pass before signing up. Or maybe C-D should charge a few bucks for a screen name, as most kids would rather spend their allowance on video games.
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Old 11-14-2013, 10:32 AM
 
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Dang, I gotta spread rep, can't give it to Lilac.
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Old 11-14-2013, 10:42 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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The handful of them who keep getting banned and coming back with new user names, in particular. Then again, if they can't take the hint, they're too thick to understand any post longer than a tweet if it doesn't already mesh with their ludicrous ideas of women.

There really should be a social IQ test that people have to pass before signing up. Or maybe C-D should charge a few bucks for a screen name, as most kids would rather spend their allowance on video games.

I would love it if there could be some age verification system and keep the youngins out.
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Old 11-14-2013, 10:46 AM
 
Location: NW Indiana
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