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Old 12-24-2013, 12:14 AM
 
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I thought the OP was defining "desperate" as someone who wants to move quickly from meeting someone online to being in an exclusive relationship with that person. He thinks in real life, you just happen to meet people and get to know them and then possibly start dating and having a relationship. Based on what he's saying, anyone who looks to meet someone for the sole purpose of getting into a relationship is desperate so I'd think that would apply to people looking to find relationships via bars/clubs, speed dating, activity groups, social networks...you name it. Basically if you're looking to meet people and hoping it might turn into a relationship, you're desperate according to the OP.

My personal definition of being desperate is that you're willing to take anyone or greatly lower your standards just to be with someone. Wanting to make a connection or be in a relationship with a person who meets your qualifications isn't desperation to me.
Is it desperate if you realize that your qualifications were way over the top so you adjusted until you actually started getting attention?
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Old 12-24-2013, 04:40 AM
 
Location: Wake Forest, NC
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Eh I find that a lot of the guys I've met online are desperate! I'm on a few sites just to meet people/new friends with similar interests, and new men contact me everyday asking me "do you have a pic, can you text me/facebook me". I'm sure there are some normal ones on there as well...maybe posting looking for friends means something else online lol.
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Old 12-24-2013, 05:39 AM
 
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Eh I find that a lot of the guys I've met online are desperate! I'm on a few sites just to meet people/new friends with similar interests, and new men contact me everyday asking me "do you have a pic, can you text me/facebook me". I'm sure there are some normal ones on there as well...maybe posting looking for friends means something else online lol.

why are you on a dating site looking for mere friends ?

being asked for a pic on a dating site is not a sign of desperation , in fact someone who is on a dating site without a pic comes across as highly insecure and lacking confidence
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Old 12-24-2013, 10:54 AM
 
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And sometimes the pics are just blurry too. Lets not forget, pics online are usually the ones that shine a light on their aspects the most. It's why many women have breast and/or headshots. In my area, I see a lot of profiles that don't have a full body pic, even though it's expected for men to have one.
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Old 12-24-2013, 10:58 AM
 
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Not really. There might be a few but I think for the most part, men think of it as a big joke. They don't bother to read the profiles, they contact you for casual sex when it's clear on your profile that you're not interested. They lie about everything, even stuff that they'll get caught on! They can't even be decent on dates, always texting people and talking about sex with their exes.
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Old 01-25-2014, 08:07 PM
 
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I think so :I'm sure a lot of people would love to have a great story about meeting their boyfriends/girlfriends/husbands/wives, but a lot of times it doesn't work out like that. In the end, what does it matter as long as you meet the right person?
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Old 01-25-2014, 08:50 PM
 
Location: Sydney, Australia
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No. Many people aren't into the bar and club thing. It can be a good way to meet people with similar interests because you can cut through the BS of talking to people that you might not otherwise dedicate any time to. Sure there are some weirdos, but no more than you would find in the aforementioned places.

It's just another way of meeting people.
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Old 01-25-2014, 10:33 PM
 
Location: West Coast
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I think online dating is filled with married men and women who like pretending they are single. It is a cheaters paradise. People are always on the look out for something new and different. It is easy to lie about your marital status on a dating site. I think most people on dating sites are desperate liars. The few who are not are exceptions. This is just my opinion.
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Old 01-26-2014, 12:35 AM
 
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I can't see the difference between that and some random guy on the street asking me out.

What is some random guy on the street doing in the middle of the ocean?
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Old 01-26-2014, 03:14 AM
 
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Not really. There might be a few but I think for the most part, men think of it as a big joke. They don't bother to read the profiles, they contact you for casual sex when it's clear on your profile that you're not interested. They lie about everything, even stuff that they'll get caught on! They can't even be decent on dates, always texting people and talking about sex with their exes.
LOL. Amen.
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