Why Do Bitter People Always Think They Know "The Truth?" (women, sex)
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I've noticed that most people can have a whole series of good relationships (or at least decent ones) and not come away from those relationships thinking they've gleaned any great insights into the opposite sex or the human condition.
But let someone have a few bad relationships, and suddenly they think they know The Truth. They suddenly know women are all shallow and materialistic. They suddenly know men are all players who get off on humiliating women. And so on. And they tend to get very militant about it. They feel some desperate need to spread their Truth to everyone else, and become angry and belligerent with those who question or disagree with them.
I am just curious as to why so many people seem to give so much more weight to bad experiences than to good ones.
It is much easier to blame the lack of good relationships on the other party than admit to oneself that the other person is not the problem in the bad relationship or at least not the "entire" problem.
Being truthful with oneself is one road many choose not go wander.
Maybe they are under this misguided and silly belief that if they yell loud enough and be as insulting and rude as possible they will get their point across.
One thing that gets me is the mentality some people have on here that the world is a harsher place than it actually is. I mean yeah, it isn't all sunshine and rainbows and life isn't always just or fair but women, men and people in general are not as cruel as some of the poster's here think they are.
In my opinion, people in general don't necessarily focus on the negative experiences more, as there is unquantifiable amount of wisdom to learn from any type of experience, good or bad. Perhaps fixating on the bad experiences, allows a person to feel safer, because by keeping these experiences fresh it allows a person to avoid similar type experience from repeating itself in the future. Positive experiences can be analyzed, learned from ad stored away in memory banks, because their return would likely be welcome.
As for the truth, everyone has their own version of truth, and its all based on their own life experiences. Then, there is The Truth. Follow that, there is only one.
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