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What I don't get is, why would you keep going if your partner was just lying there? Why would you not stop and ask them what was wrong? If they said, 'Nothing, please continue,' or whatever, why would you do so? Wouldn't you feel creeped out?
What I don't get is, why would you keep going if your partner was just lying there? Why would you not stop and ask them what was wrong? If they said, 'Nothing, please continue,' or whatever, why would you do so? Wouldn't you feel creeped out?
Yeah, that would creep me out a bit. It's certainly a mood killer; I'm not a fan of passive people in general, let alone in bed. But I think two things are relevant here:
1.) You are responsible for the things you don't say. If I ask what's wrong and you decline to tell me, that's on you.
2.) At some point, everyone is responsible for their own orgasm. If you don't want yours, that's up to you. I want mine.
I can see that in a first-time encounter, but in long-term relationships there's probably something more subtle and gradual going on, like she usually fakes and is bored with the pretense, so she responds less each time. That's reinforced by his orgasming anyway.
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Wouldn't you feel creeped out?
Yes.
I did have one gf that was just like that, she froze like stone and tensed up to un believable amounts and clenched her jaw. I obviously thought initially she was just in pain, but no, she was just like that. Even when she masturbated she was just rigid and lockjawed. Didn't work out because we weren't on the same page. I like a nice sub from time to time, but an engaged one.
What I don't get is, why would you keep going if your partner was just lying there? Why would you not stop and ask them what was wrong? If they said, 'Nothing, please continue,' or whatever, why would you do so? Wouldn't you feel creeped out?
I don't know if "creeped out" is the right description - more like very concerned.
And yes, a loving caring person would stop everything rather than continue that way.
What I don't get is, why would you keep going if your partner was just lying there? Why would you not stop and ask them what was wrong? If they said, 'Nothing, please continue,' or whatever, why would you do so? Wouldn't you feel creeped out?
Oh come on. Guys that "keep going" are clearly not concerned enough about anything else to stop. They aren't "creeped out"...hell they are getting laid and that is the whole point for them.
I don't know if "creeped out" is the right description - more like very concerned.
And yes, a loving caring person would stop everything rather than continue that way.
And a responsible, emotionally mature person would talk about what they were feeling rather than saying, "Nothing, please continue." It's not all on him.
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Guys that "keep going" are clearly not concerned enough about anything else to stop. They aren't "creeped out"...hell they are getting laid and that is the whole point for them.
