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Old 11-25-2013, 07:14 AM
 
Location: In the Pearl of the Purchase, Ky
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I'm on marriage #3 and definitely believe the old saying "the third time's the charm". My first marriage was with my girlfriend who told me "guess what the doctor told me today?" With her being 16 and me 19, her deputy sheriff daddy wasn't too happy. That lasted 2 years. #2 was with to a pen pal. We had been writing back and forth for several months before meeting in October and marrying in November. I had known after my divorce that I did want to marry again. Was just in my early 20s and wasn't going to stay single. We loved each other and hit it off pretty quick. We talked about marriage soon after having sex the first time, which was also her first time. For years she said she didn't know if I mentioned marriage at that time because I was afraid she was mad at me about the sex. Funny thing is SHE was the one who started talking marriage. Marriage lasted just short of 20 years. When I met my present wife, neither one of us were thinking marriage. I was divorce twice and she was widowed once and divorced once. We were both just looking for friends, somebody to talk to, do things with (yeah that too. lol) But things don't always work out the way you think. We dated 2 years before we married.
I know I dragged this on, but just saying people don't go around thinking "I'm tired of this marriage. I think I'll get a divorce and find somebody else. " Sometimes it just happens. If something should happen to my wife now, I'm 57 and really don't think I'd go for #4. When you're married to the best, who could you find to top it?
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Old 11-25-2013, 07:57 AM
 
Location: NoVa
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I have no idea. My sister is on her 4th, but she has been with him for quite a while now. Maybe he is the one.

My ex husbands mother was married 3x, I think.
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Old 11-25-2013, 08:01 AM
 
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Inability to see one's faults and inability to be alone.
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Old 11-25-2013, 08:06 AM
 
Location: Outer Space
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Hope springs eternal.

If I were dating again, this would be a huge red flag to me to have already been divorced two or more times.
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Old 11-25-2013, 02:30 PM
 
Location: Michigan
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I have a friend that's been married three times and you would think they would give up after the third failed marriage but they don't. What are looking for to keep going?
He's likes to be in control without question. He would be called a control freak.
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Old 11-25-2013, 02:42 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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Yeah, I've often wondered about that myself, I couldn't imagine wanting to go thru 3 or more marriages, I would think at some point, you'd just shack up and call it a day.

I imagine it's probably just older people doing that, it seems like the Gen X crowd and younger don't place quite as much importance on marriage.
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Old 11-25-2013, 02:50 PM
 
Location: Michigan
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I know someone that has lived with his girlfriend for 40 years and they are very happy.

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Old 11-25-2013, 03:39 PM
 
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Wouldn't you think optimism is the person who's about to become spouse #4-5 ?
My dad definitely traded down in our opinion. Wife number 3 is actually a woman on the side in both my mom and dad's marriage and his second marriage. Imagine the look on her face when he had what many thought was a Christmas party and it was an engagement party. Oh, that was priceless.....and it gets better.

My mother and he had built a business together and were in the million dollar bracket. She did not want to take the business and close it down, but she felt as long as he helped us kids get through school, she walked with nothing.

Now wife #2 found out about the side show he had going and he came home that day and she had cleaned him out...everything including the nails in the walls for the pictures. She knew she wasn't going to get snot out of him so she had the house redecorated and then loaded them vans and trucks at 4 in the morning until 1:00 in the afternoon. He called my office and said, I need you to stop over here. I did and when I shut the door it echoed. I took one look around me and thought - this Beosh is my hero. He was sitting on the stairs to the formal living room and I just said, "I can't say you didn't deserve this" and he said, "Yeah, true."

Then the current beosh had her window of opportunity to be the big cheese in society and living in the mansion....she was really looking forward to it. Unfortunately, his business was a disaster and he lost it all and had to sell that big house. He was no longer employable and went on retirement with Social Security and she is now the sole supporter of the family and they were forced to move into a very cramped apartment. Awe, miss 'I am high society now' ended up the with all her dreams of mansion living shattered.

In a matter of physical attraction my mother looked great all her life and he progressively started a whole new taste bracket. I said to my brother I have no idea why these women and he said, "She must give good head and that's about it."

Lesson learned - be carful what you wish for - you might actually get it. And optimistic - it wasn't. Dumb as a box of rocks is more like it.

Optimism is going after Moby Dick in a rowboat and taking the tartar sauce with you.
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Old 11-25-2013, 03:40 PM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Suckers for punishment. That is all.
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Old 11-25-2013, 03:51 PM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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I'm on marriage #3 and definitely believe the old saying "the third time's the charm".
I'm very happy with wife 2.0, but if the third time's the charm, I can only hope that polygamy becomes legal!
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