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Old 11-25-2013, 04:08 PM
 
Location: Sunny Bay Area, CA
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I think every situation is different. Some people have good reasonable reasons why they are married 3, 4 times. Other people ...well it becomes obvious why they can't seem to keep a marriage intact.

I myself am divorced, (got married at the ripe old age of 19 -- I don't really recommend this) and I've been in a relationship with my current fiance for 10 years (engaged for 1.5 yrs). Clearly I am not in a huge hurry to get remarried, as I feel that I will never want to have another divorce under my belt. This works for me and my SO, but for someone else, they may want to be remarried as soon as possible.

If this next one didn't work out, and I ended up twice divorced, that's it - no more marriages for me.
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Old 11-25-2013, 04:13 PM
 
Location: Michigan
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I've dated women that wanted to married in two weeks and that's not going to happen with me.
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Old 11-25-2013, 05:21 PM
 
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Optimism?

My father did it three times and I think it was mainly to have someone to cook for him.
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Old 11-25-2013, 11:12 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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My dad definitely traded down in our opinion....
"In our opinion" isn't what counts. Kids never know the whole story about their parents' marriage. My first marriage was, after the first few years, a joke. We hid our problems well, from our kids, friends, relatives. When I finally divorced my wife, my daughter wanted to know why. She always thought we had a great marriage, better than the parents of any of her friends. No, we were just good actors.

But I declined to give my daughter the reason. I never spoke badly of her mother before, and I wasn't going to after I filed for divorce. I could have. My daughter might have sided with me, but that would have only hurt both her AND her mother. So she got the story my ex wanted her to get. That's okay. I'm happily married now. My kids may think I "traded down," but traded a make-believe marriage for a real one.
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Old 11-26-2013, 08:23 AM
 
Location: Terra
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I've never been married so I don't think I could date or marry someone that is divorced.
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