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Originally Posted by Ascension2012
Because women can justify and rationalize anything. Ive talked to women who were cheating on their husbands for years, but in their head "it was only sex" thus they honestly didn't believe that they cheated. Hamster rationalization, victimhood and inability to take responsibility for ones actions. If a guy allows his woman to sleep with other guys while he is waiting to be intimate with her for months, he is a doormat. Any guy worth his salt would laugh at the idea.
Any guy worth his salt would be doing the same thing himself.
Oh, nice use of the word "allows". Like he owns her body... very telling.
Any guy worth his salt would be doing the same thing himself.
Oh, nice use of the word "allows". Like he owns her body... very telling.
See here is the problem with this whole scenario. A man who allows for this to happen, will never, ever be respected by his woman. Sort of like a stay at home dad who does most of the household chores. Sort of like a beta male provider type guy, who lacks excitement but is a decent man. None of these men will ever be respected by their GFs, wives. Just like a man who earns substantially less than his woman wont be. All these guys have one thing in common. Their wives do not respect them at all, and cheat on them behind their backs. It happens over and over and over.
Because women can justify and rationalize anything. Ive talked to women who were cheating on their husbands for years, but in their head "it was only sex" thus they honestly didn't believe that they cheated. Hamster rationalization, victimhood and inability to take responsibility for ones actions. If a guy allows his woman to sleep with other guys while he is waiting to be intimate with her for months, he is a doormat. Any guy worth his salt would laugh at the idea.
I'm a bit mystified by the guys who are clutching their pearls on this thread. Use your imaginations and reverse the genders. Still got your panties in a knot? Somehow I doubt it.
I tried to do that, but that didn't make the situation any better, in fact it made it worse.
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If this was a non-exclusive relationship, she was free to conduct her sexual life the way she saw fit without anyone else's input. She wasn't obligated to sleep with the OP just because she was sleeping with someone else, which is what a lot of men seem to think based on these posts. And that is really disturbing.
Except that is not the case at all. Most people do not considered it okay to sleep with 5 other girls at the same night you became offical, because you are decieving them. Part of creating a relationship is winning your partners trust and you are not getting his trust by sleeping around and at the same time making him believe you are waiting for him, it is just dishonest. She is pretending she is this good girl, but in fact she is not that at all.
The problem with her is not that she is sleeping around, the problem is that she is being dishonest. If you believe you can sleep around as much as you like up till you become offical, then please inform your partner about that.
But people like her don't do that, because they want to trick people to keep sleeping with them, and thats despicable.
We got it. You go on a few dates with a woman and you think you own their body and should have a say in what they can do with it.
Good luck with that.
So rejecting her is the same as thinking you own her body?!
Also, you did not answer my question. This was my question. Lets say you have been dating this women for 2 months, and she is deeply in love with you. She asks you "are you sleeping with other women right now?" The truth is that you are sleeping with two other women at the same time. What do you answer?
Because women can justify and rationalize anything. Ive talked to women who were cheating on their husbands for years, but in their head "it was only sex" thus they honestly didn't believe that they cheated. Hamster rationalization, victimhood and inability to take responsibility for ones actions. If a guy allows his woman to sleep with other guys while he is waiting to be intimate with her for months, he is a doormat. Any guy worth his salt would laugh at the idea.
I didn't say anything like that about cheating on anyone.
You are seriously not listening to a word I'm saying.
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So rejecting her is the same as thinking you own her body?!
Also, you did not answer my question. This was my question. Lets say you have been dating this women for 2 months, and she is deeply in love with you. She asks you "are you sleeping with other women right now?" The truth is that you are sleeping with two other women at the same time. What do you answer?
You're free to reject her if you find out. It is the term "allows" that is so offensive. No one controls my body and I control no ones elses. That is a screwed up mentality to have and "allows" should be a word thrown out of the vocabulary when we're talking about relationships.
I didn't see the question. I have, when been in that situation, answered "I'm seeing some people casually and meeting new people right now". Who I am having sex with is not their business and if really pressed I will say that outright. It's never resulted in an ending of a new relationship, but has spurred further conversations about the direction of the relationship (and on occasion an STD talk). And quite frankly, your situation isn't plausible, as if she was "deeply" in love with me she would have broached the exclusivity issue, we also would have probably slept together (bring in the STD talk, etc).
So rejecting her is the same as thinking you own her body?!
Also, you did not answer my question. This was my question. Lets say you have been dating this women for 2 months, and she is deeply in love with you. She asks you "are you sleeping with other women right now?" The truth is that you are sleeping with two other women at the same time. What do you answer?
Critics of your question would probably remind you that the OP didnt ask her this question "She asks you "are you sleeping with other women right now?". Not that I dont agree with you.
Critics of your question would probably remind you that the OP didnt ask her this question "She asks you "are you sleeping with other women right now?". Not that I dont agree with you.
In a good relationship there is no need to ask a question like that. Either you agreed thats totally acceptable, or you don't do it.
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