Would you marry someone who doesn't love you? (separate, child, friends)
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I've been dating a man for about 2.5 years and am 13 weeks pregnant. We have a good relationship but he always told me that he didn't have emotional feelings for me; just more like a best friend. Now that he has found out about the pregnancy he is begging me to marry him. But I don't know if I can see it, because I know he would not consider it otherwise. The pregnancy was not planned but is very wanted after I got over the shock. We are both early 40's so its not like we are kids. I just don't know if I can face being married to someone that I love very much and knowing he does not love me... for the rest of my life.
Nope. Can you spend the rest of your life with a man who doesn't even love you? If you can, that is your choice.
For me, there is no way I can even consider having a relationship with somebody who doesn't care for me.
I've been INSANELY loved by several men and they have given me the greatest joy and pleasure I have ever experienced. I will never give that up.
I disagree. They should get married so the baby can have a stable home?
That's a very good reason to get married. LM's post was spot on.
Married couples should also be the very best of friends. Even if it only lasts 10 years, that's great for the kid.
Time to stop being selfish and do what's right for the kid. Thank goodness my dad married my mom when she got knocked up.
They had 45 good years together.
Absolutely not. You can co-parent as friends but don't marry him. You will just resent him eventually. Better to break it off now and remain good friends for your child.
I've been dating a man for about 2.5 years and am 13 weeks pregnant. We have a good relationship but he always told me that he didn't have emotional feelings for me; just more like a best friend. Now that he has found out about the pregnancy he is begging me to marry him. But I don't know if I can see it, because I know he would not consider it otherwise. The pregnancy was not planned but is very wanted after I got over the shock. We are both early 40's so its not like we are kids. I just don't know if I can face being married to someone that I love very much and knowing he does not love me... for the rest of my life.
To the poster who was wondering why he is now so insistant on marriage, he is from a different culture that practices arranged marriage, and having a baby out of wedlock is the worst shame that can happen.
I'll probably do it for that reason. He'd be outcasted from his community otherwise. I am just really tired and not feeling good right now and feel like I can't think straight, but this discussion has helped. Thanks to all.
NO WAY!! I would never marry someone who did it out of cultural obligation. He's only marrying you to save face and look like some kind of stand-up guy for his family.
I've seen this story before and it always has the same ending.
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