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That's not an ethical way to meet women unless you're actually interested in being a member of those groups. Joining a group just to meet women is schemey. Presuming she's a member because she's truly interested in the group, you've already entered the relationship on a lie from the very beginning.
I think it's safe to assume that Ruth was referring to joining groups one is actually interested in, not just any random group. It's a good way to meet people with whom you have something in common.
I think it's safe to assume that Ruth was referring to joining groups one is actually interested in, not just any random group. It's a good way to meet people with whom you have something in common.
Well, if one was interested in doing that, one would have already done that.
Online dating is a way to meet people who are already interested in what one is already interested in.
Well, if one was interested in doing that, one would have already done that.
Have you already done everything on earth that you're even remotely interested in doing? If so, kudos, though I'm not sure what you'll do with the rest of your life now. Most of us evolve new interests as we go through life. Also, most of us have a limited amount of free time, and therefore have to prioritize our interests, because we can't pursue all of them. It makes no sense to assume that someone has already done something just because they're interested in it.
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Online dating is a way to meet people who are already interested in what one is already interested in.
I agree. It's one way. Joining groups is another way.
Have you already done everything on earth that you're even remotely interested in doing? If so, kudos, though I'm not sure what you'll do with the rest of your life now. Most of us evolve new interests as we go through life.
But I would not feign interest in order to meet women. What I gain interest in, is not with regard to meeting women.
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Also, most of us have a limited amount of free time, and therefore have to prioritize our interests.
That would a good reason why one would use a dating service to meet women who have the same interests.
That's not an ethical way to meet women unless you're actually interested in being a member of those groups. Joining a group just to meet women is schemey. Presuming she's a member because she's truly interested in the group, you've already entered the relationship on a lie from the very beginning.
You're assuming, for some reason, that people would join groups they have no inherent interest in.
I feel like if someone has to resort to using online dating then their dignity is greatly diminished. It means that a person has a fundamental flaw that inhibits them from properly communicating with the opposite sex in the real world.
Given the fact that somewhere between 20% and 50% of relationships now begin with online interactions (depending on whose estimates you believe), that seems unlikely.
The next time I see bson post something positive about himself or in general...will be the first time.
Online dating is just another avenue of many for someone to find people to date...IRL, BTW. It has its pros and its cons.
Pro: It's not unlike a marketplace - many potential choices out there to evaluate and screen.
Con: It seems to have a higher concentration of people who seem a bit socially awkward compared to a typical cross-section of people you notice or know while out and about.
There are other positives and negatives. It is not for everyone (neither is the bar, gym, salsa dance class, Meetup, whatever in terms of meeting people to possibly date). But on the other hand, unless you know for certain it's not for you...why limit your possibilities.
One's dignity or lack thereof shouldn't even matter here. Your dignity is ultimately up to you. Dating sites are just tools...a means to an end (meeting people offline and perhaps more) that works out well and convenient for some people.
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