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Originally Posted by SOON2BNSURPRISE
You are all correct. The problem is that since you made your choice to stay single then you will never have anything to compare it to. I was single and that was fun. I am married with kids and that is more than fun. Looking back I was not really happy being single. I was just having fun. I am not asking for approval. I am sharing my experience on the subject.
I'm not looking for anything to compare it to, I just know what is right for me and the type of life I want to lead. The life I want to lead does not have room to fit children and parenting in well.
I'm not looking for anything to compare it to, I just know what is right for me and the type of life I want to lead. The life I want to lead does not have room to fit children and parenting in well.
It is so frustrating that when someone, aged 22, says "I don't want children" and are told: "You don't know yourself yet." And then when someone aged 22 says "we're starting a family!" everyone goes "Congrats! You'll love it."
I've known since I was a young teen I didn't want kids. In the past ... oh, eighteen years, that hasn't changed.
Really? And you know this from experience?
Funny. I had a lot of judgemental glares (and I was 24) and with each subsequent pregnancy more often than not people felt I needed to be educated on birth control, or how much it will cost with another, or how we were stretching ourselves too thin, or assuming we were on gov't assistance and talking down to us like they "owned"us...even making comments about how we were crazy or clueless...etc. I STILL get comments just about every time we all go out. People ask really intrusive questions.
It goes both ways. A lot of people love to butt into the personal lives and decisions of others. However....if someone feels the need to announce their personal business, not sure why they'd be shocked that others will want to discuss it.
"It's my body," its a man's choice
Old enough to die at war, then I'm old enough to make this decission
So true though OP. I think we've gotten around so much to basing decisisons on what women , want and think but the reality its none of their business.
Personally ive never wanted kids. That hasnt changed at all .
I dont think you have to necessarily go to this extend to prevent getting pulled in to having a kid.
Like women say though,
its your body, your choice. So ill stand behind every feminist/woman on this. Pro choice Pro Choice Pro Choice Pro Choice Pro Choice Pro Choice!!
One thing though......this isn't a man vs woman thing.
Doctors refuse to sterilize young women too.
As you said, and as I said earlier......if you are allowed to make the decision to go to war at 18.....put your life on the line.....you should also be allowed to make the decision to get sterilized without doctor's forcing their opinion on you.
People make all kinds of major decisions that they regret later in life......no one is auditing those decisions......and the decision to get sterilized shouldn't be any different.
If you decide to get sterilized and regret it later......that's life and it's on you.....just like all of the other life decisions you make.
I think doctors should be required to sterilize anyone who is of legal age.
Perhaps require reading an information pamphlet, maybe a short waiting period.....then sign a document resolving the doctor of any responsibility.......then get it done no matter how the doctor personally feels about it.
Really? And you know this from experience?
Funny. I had a lot of judgemental glares (and I was 24) and with each subsequent pregnancy more often than not people felt I needed to be educated on birth control, or how much it will cost with another, or how we were stretching ourselves too thin, or assuming we were on gov't assistance and talking down to us like they "owned"us...even making comments about how we were crazy or clueless...etc. I STILL get comments just about every time we all go out. People ask really intrusive questions.
It goes both ways. A lot of people love to butt into the personal lives and decisions of others. However....if someone feels the need to announce their personal business, not sure why they'd be shocked that others will want to discuss it.
So, moral of story is: Don't say S*@& about your personal business, and go on about your day. I wholeheartedly subscribe to this line of thinking.
So, moral of story is: Don't say S*@& about your personal business, and go on about your day. I wholeheartedly subscribe to this line of thinking.
Yup...pretty much!
If someone doesn't want their personal decisions picked apart, don't advertise them.
When people ask, respond with "that question is rather personal, don't you think?"
Usually that works for me and shuts them up, unless they are completely socially inept.
Then I just pretend I'm hard of hearing
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