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Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life! Go to a gym. Cut out sweets and starches. Take a walk around the block, every day, starting tomorrow. You'll feel better, just from getting your body moving and the blood circulating. Take deep breaths while walking in the brisk, winter air. Make it a walking meditation. Inspire yourself!
We have been friends for 3 years now and he tells me he loves me and wants to entertain the idea us being in a relationship.
I kind of thought about it also but I am currently an unemployeed fat depressed loser..I have been for 6 years now. He deserves better than me that's for sure.
He lives somewhat far away and I cannot afford to meet him even if he pays half. I still got so much to fix about myself before I am suitable to even be seen as someones friend in public let alone in a relationship.
I really do not want to lose my only friend but. I still need to lose weight before I could let him see me in person.
Seeing how I had 3 years to do it I don't know if I ever will.
Should I just give up?
I take it he doesn't know what you look like?
I think after 3 years you should have exchanged pictures by now.
In all the time that you have been in contact with him have you exchanged photos or have you told him what you look like? If so, then he obviously knows what you look like and accepts you that way. In that case it is a matter of self esteem building and you should at least meet him and see what happens. Can he afford to come to you to visit? If he has never seen a photo of you and if you have never described yourself then I think it is important that you do. He can then jusge where he wants to go from there. I would certainly tell him that whether you get into a intimate relationship or not, that you do not want to lose your friendship with him.
As far as losing weight, just because you have not up to now, doesn't mean you cannot still do it. No matter who you talk to about losing weight on a diet, there was always day 1, there was always a first day. You can make your first day any day you want.
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Ruth is right. If you are unhappy with your physical self, then you can start doing something to change it... right now! You have the power to do it, and it will have a positive impact on every other aspect of your life. You just have to make a commitment to yourself, to take care of you!
Didn't we go over this several months ago with a different screen name?
I swear I've seen the original post here already, some months back-the same wording and all.
Here is the OP for the other thread that this one seems eerily reminiscent of: //www.city-data.com/forum/31834415-post1.html
International, maybe? I didn't meet my husband until 2.5 years later because we were on different continents.
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