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I have been dating this girl for a month now but I have been crazy about her for about a year now. The problem is that she really only saw me as a friend until recently. We kissed some and stuff during that time and flirted a lot but that was all. She never would commit to me and date me until a month ago. So everything has been perfect so far, she seems to me crazy about me and already talking about our future together. The only problem is that I think she may have a tough time transitioning from seeing me as just a friend to now seeing me as a boyfriend. We haven't really made out or anything like that and it's been a month! We hold hands and are always really close, and we do kiss every time we are together but mostly just pecks on the lips! We see each other every day and I just keep wondering when she is going to show me more attraction and everything. I know she's had sex before and has even talked to me about it before we started dating but now I'm not sure how much more patient I can be! I start to wonder why she's not wanting to do that with me? I've told her that I want her to open up to me more and show me more love and affection and then she usually does for a day or two but it's nothing too serious. So what do I need to do? I love this girl and we always laugh and have a great time together. Everything is starting to get pretty serious with us other than the physical part! So what do I need to do or say to get that going? I feel like I just upset her the more I talk about it, but yet she knows it's a big deal to me. Should I just be patient and give it time or do I have every right at this point to make this a big deal? She's only 20, but I know she's done everything before. So any suggestions would be great! How do I spark the attraction and get affection?
I have been dating this girl for a month now but I have been crazy about her for about a year now. The problem is that she really only saw me as a friend until recently. We kissed some and stuff during that time and flirted a lot but that was all. She never would commit to me and date me until a month ago. So everything has been perfect so far, she seems to me crazy about me and already talking about our future together. The only problem is that I think she may have a tough time transitioning from seeing me as just a friend to now seeing me as a boyfriend. We haven't really made out or anything like that and it's been a month! We hold hands and are always really close, and we do kiss every time we are together but mostly just pecks on the lips! We see each other every day and I just keep wondering when she is going to show me more attraction and everything. I know she's had sex before and has even talked to me about it before we started dating but now I'm not sure how much more patient I can be! I start to wonder why she's not wanting to do that with me? I've told her that I want her to open up to me more and show me more love and affection and then she usually does for a day or two but it's nothing too serious. So what do I need to do? I love this girl and we always laugh and have a great time together. Everything is starting to get pretty serious with us other than the physical part! So what do I need to do or say to get that going? I feel like I just upset her the more I talk about it, but yet she knows it's a big deal to me. Should I just be patient and give it time or do I have every right at this point to make this a big deal? She's only 20, but I know she's done everything before. So any suggestions would be great! How do I spark the attraction and get affection?
First off. Congratulations for escaping the friendzone. Many lesser men have gone down in flames trying.
I know you're young. How to get more physical with her, you can get advice on that wherever. The only advice I have to give is this and I think it's good.
Watch for her not treating you like a boyfriend. Not buying into it. When women aren't completely attracted to a man, they won't introduce you as a boyfriend in public, won't kiss you in public, won't do the things women do for their boyfriends IN PUBLIC. In short, they are ashamed as having you as a boyfriend because they are not really attracted to you. They are not proud of you.
I've seen it happen several times. If you see it happening, dump her.
First off. Congratulations for escaping the friendzone. Many lesser men have gone down in flames trying.
I know you're young. How to get more physical with her, you can get advice on that wherever. The only advice I have to give is this and I think it's good.
Watch for her not treating you like a boyfriend. Not buying into it. When women aren't completely attracted to a man, they won't introduce you as a boyfriend in public, won't kiss you in public, won't do the things women do for their boyfriends IN PUBLIC. In short, they are ashamed as having you as a boyfriend because they are not really attracted to you. They are not proud of you.
I've seen it happen several times. If you see it happening, dump her.
No she's not this way at all. We went and got our pictures taken together (her idea) and she plasters it all over Facebook and tells everyone how great her "boyfriend" is and introduced me to her family. Everything is perfect in that aspect, which is why this is such a weird situation! She cuddles with me and gets close, but yet won't give me anything other than a peck hardly! It kills me!
Maybe she needs more time. Maybe she likes to take it slowly. You don't know how long it took her to build up to make-outs, etc. with her previous bf/s. Hold her hand a lot. Give it another few weeks. You've been crazy about her for a year, but she's only been into you for a month. So she needs time to catch up to where you're at.
I'll be honest, I successfully escaped the friend zone!!! It can happen folks!
"Friend zone" is such a idiotic term. YOU didn't do anything. SHE simply saw you as dating material. If a girl is not attracted to you, it's not anything more mysterious than that.
hey if shes crazy about you now-go with the flow.....
anything worthwhile, takes time,,,you are both very young...
sometimes the hotter the flame, the more you get burnt...so this scares some folks...
prove yourself-if she's worth it.....give her the time she needs, maybe she is feeling you out-having been a friend for a while, maybe she wants to know if you will risk a long term friendship in pushing her for sex too quickly..
enjoy the time you have together, thats what life is about when you are young,,,
take her places....adventures outside,,,go hiking, go the the ocean/lakes
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