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Old 11-30-2013, 05:45 AM
 
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How did you develop your humor?
I'm terrible at this sort of social skill.
I can't think of something funny very easily at all. I just can't make people laugh often at all...
Despite being academically smart, I am a retarded person when it comes to intelligence.
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Old 11-30-2013, 06:22 AM
 
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you've got to be able to laugh at yourself..... and not afraid to be laughed at- let go of your ego..

practice your humorous skills on a woman thats working, she will be polite,,,not shun you, this will build up some confidence

start off with a dry sense of humor.....
for example,,i was at mcdonalds the other day,,,this high strung, stressed out girl was taking orders, when it was my turn,
i ordered a coffee, and then -looking at all the pictures, looked her in the eye and said with a straight face- you sell hamburgers...right?? well, she turned around to all the(burger) pics, and burst into a 3 minute giggle.. she smiled, cocked her head sideways and thanked me for the laugh
i didnt care if she thought i was odd, or simple, i made a pretty girl smile/laugh, and it brightened my day



then to single (non working)women,,,,but you've got to step it up a bit,, not look too creepy, youve also got to not put them on a pedastal of being unapproachable,,,they will sense weakness, and get creeped out-and run away like a bunny


this takes practice.. and it doesnt always work,,,, you can be funny as hell, but if you are trying to hit on a lesbian, its like a dog humping a slipper, you cant force it..
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Old 11-30-2013, 06:44 AM
 
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Humor tends to be an innate quality. Your humor should guide you through many a course. In essence you are responsible for it. As much as I dislike my father he did stuff that was outrageously funny and I believe I inherited it from him as well as my brothers. So, I had the advantage of 'learned' humor.

I refer to something simple. 7-up had this contest a few years back by punching out this circle on a carton of it. It was the size of a quarter. We were laughing about it and then the next thing you know we were hiding it in places the other could find. Jacket pockets, the freezer, inside a pair of socks...you name it you saw it. I wish I knew where it went. It was just silly humor.

My brother, being the smartass like me, found this plastic goose garden figure. I had an apartment above a store and I was on the phone. He'd take then goose and put it in the passenger side of my car. Looked up at me just laughing. Like the 7-up circle we traded that goose back and forth forever. Once on the antenna of my car at the mall, I fixed it to his truck, which he backed in so he didn't see it where the goose with garland was on the front grill. Stuff like that. Whenever you forgot about that stupid goose it reappeared.

I was dating a guy who really appreciated a sense of humor and could dish it up pretty good. When my parents divorced my mom took nothing - but I did. All the silver serving stuff. I had breakfast on a tray and there were silver lids on all the dishes. I hired my gay waiter friend of the time to get in his tux and deliver it for me....what was the joke? All the food under the silver lids was from McDonalds. Lesson here - be creative.

Or look for current events and put a spin on them The other, and best advice I can give you" is read the news and social media for new material.
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Old 11-30-2013, 06:53 AM
 
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If it was true that the ability to make a woman laugh translates into getting laid, then I would be getting laid left and right. I've always been able to infuse humor into conversations and make the women laugh.

Also, we can't forget the fact that women perceive good-looking guys as being funnier: Why being attractive makes your jokes funnier: Women admit they laugh more with handsome men | Mail Online.
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Old 11-30-2013, 07:01 AM
 
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Perhaps your delivery is just too "forced". When people try to be funny, they quite often come across as either attention seekers, or simply creepy.

Please remember, too....that not all people find the same things funny. Know your audience a bit, before you start trying to be funny. Nothings worse than making a joke that HORRIBLY offends someone. For instance, if you're making jokes about retarded people, you better hope that your audience does not have one in their lives. Make a joke about a fat person and you could be talking about their parent, sibling or best friend.

IOW.....make sure that you're actually joking about something that they can relate to AND that they might consider funny. Some subjects are simply NOT funny....not to nice people.
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Old 11-30-2013, 07:02 AM
 
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I studied it on a mountain in eastern most Kyrgyzstan



4 years, 4 longs years...
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Old 11-30-2013, 07:03 AM
 
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My girlfriends mom is pregnant with a girl. At Thanksgiving with her family I told them in 18 years I'm trading my girlfriend in for the new model that will be born soon. They all got a good laugh.

A lot of my humor is boarderline inappropriate but everyone that knows me accepts it and is used to it. Even growing up I'd be the kid in class that would say what everyone was thinking but wasnt appropriate. It'd get a laugh and then everyones jaw would drop and I would be in the office lol.

Like another member said, be prepared to laugh and make fun of yourself. My best stories are really embarrassing stories about myself. At work or with friends we'll all make fun of each other but I can take it as good as anyone. I can be the butt end of a joke and not care at all. It's blatantly obvious some posters here would go into deep depressions if you made a joke at their expense in front of others..

It helps to be around people that have an easygoing attitude too. If they can take a joke you can pick fun of them easily.

My gf and I went to a nicer restaurant a few weeks back in which they call you by your last name the whole time. I made the reservstion as "Dan Butts" and the whole night they called me "mr. Butts" and we got a pretty good laugh out of it. Immature, I know, but not caring is the biggest start to a good sense of humor.

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Old 11-30-2013, 07:08 AM
 
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Oh, I almost forgot about my favorite one. My elder brother and I waited until about midnight and then took these baby plastic aligators and sunk them in my dad's pool.
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Old 11-30-2013, 07:10 AM
 
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Perhaps your delivery is just too "forced". When people try to be funny, they quite often come across as either attention seekers, or simply creepy.

Please remember, too....that not all people find the same things funny. Know your audience a bit, before you start trying to be funny. Nothings worse than making a joke that HORRIBLY offends someone. For instance, if you're making jokes about retarded people, you better hope that your audience does not have one in their lives. Make a joke about a fat person and you could be talking about their parent, sibling or best friend.

IOW.....make sure that you're actually joking about something that they can relate to AND that they might consider funny. Some subjects are simply NOT funny....not to nice people.
I do not tell bad jokes. I do not attempt to tell bad jokes. I do not even attempt to tell offensive jokes.

I can easily make people laugh (and people can make me chuckle a bit sometimes) if I can find something funny. But the truth is I rarely find something funny. If people told me to tell a joke, I couldn't. Most of my humor is situational and language based.
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Old 11-30-2013, 07:17 AM
 
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I used to work at a waste hauling company in mergers and acquisitions. My gal pals used to just roar with laughter when someone asked me what I did for a living and I'd tell them I was a garbage man.
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