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Originally Posted by fleetiebelle
Then fast-forward to six months later when Guy #1 is complaining to Jim about how he has to pay for most of their dates and how they can't go on vacation together because she never has any money.
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Well then they are not meant to be, either he is too cheap or she is too expensive.
I've brought my situation up time and time again. (and often got flamed)
When my girlfriend last worked she made $12/hr. She's 20 years old and I'm 25. I make in the mid six figures. When we started dating, I made around 70k/year. I switched fields somewhat and my income took off. She travels with me for work, which is why it's not always practical for her to work. If you at a location for 4 months it's not always feasible to start and quit, especially when we don't need the money. She has zero bills and zero debt. Which is a lot better than some college grads with 50k in student loans, a 30k car, and making 30k a year, etc.
Prior to dating her I semi-dated several girls with advanced degrees that made over 100k. I would bet in the last 7 years I have gone on dates with around 250-300 women. I think that's enough to say I've gone on dates and got to know nearly every kind of woman possible.
My girlfriend doesn't make much when she works, but she also requires very very little. We have been together over a year and a half, and I gave her a credit card to my account (in her name) since she does all the grocery shopping, runs errands, etc.
She is probably the most low maintenance girl I have ever met hands down in my life. She buys a lot of clothes at Charlotte Rousse or Wal-Mart for dirt cheap, yet she makes them look very hot. She can sew and make cool gifts. She can cook better than nearly any women I've met short of very very few (such as my mother) She pulls her own weight like no one would imagine.
I would not make sacrifices just for a woman with a higher income, especially since I make a lot..
You know what she loves?
Going to the gym with me and lifting harder than most dudes there, squatting well past her bodyweight with perfect form
Mountain biking
Cooking
The same good movies as I do, action movies, etc.
Playing video games (I'm not into them much but I think we're going to get a system for when we're bored, she really likes them)
Sex, and to note, she's gotten into it enough that it's been some of the hands down best sex I've ever had. She was shy when we met but is very adventurous.
That's so much better than dating a girl that constantly wants to shop or drag you to sh*t movies or craft shows. Won't work out with you, watch the same movies, or enjoy the same hobbies.
She's hands down the most "motherly" girl I've ever met, that doesn't have kids. Her family has a lot of young kids and they love her to death and she takes care of them great. I've never met a woman I've said to myself "wow, she will be a great mother." Not in this same way.
Virtually all of my family is successful and has degrees (I don't have a degree but I do well) and same with my friends. My closest friends are the same way, yet all of them love my girlfriend endlessly.
This is just how our relationship is now. My next project will be a year long and she will work, and when she works (as she has much of our relationship) we'll split dinners, dates, etc. But right now I could care less. When I quit doing contract work in around 5 years she will go back to school and do all that. However even if she didn't, there's no question in my mind I'd be with her.
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