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OMG, you haven't met all the compulsive motor-mouth men I've had to deal with in life! There are a lot of guys who think they're brilliant and that the world revolves around them, and they can't stop "sharing" their bright ideas, observations, trivial work success stories, etc. etc. ad nauseam with the women in their lives.
"Interesting", I think, is a balance between burying people in an avalanche of words, vs. being too quiet. "Interesting" is listening to the other person, and chiming in with some of your own ideas/experiences. Give-and-take.
OMG, you haven't met all the compulsive motor-mouth men I've had to deal with in life! There are a lot of guys who think they're brilliant and that the world revolves around them, and they can't stop "sharing" their bright ideas, observations, trivial work success stories, etc. etc. ad nauseam with the women in their lives.
"Interesting", I think, is a balance between burying people in an avalanche of words, vs. being too quiet. "Interesting" is listening to the other person, and chiming in with some of your own ideas/experiences. Give-and-take.
Sounds like sharing your life with your SO to me. Seems like you have man issues
Sounds like sharing your life with your SO to me. Seems like you have man issues
hahaha! You have no idea what I'm talking about! This has nothing to do with SO's. But you must admit, you wouldn't stick around for a lengthy running monologue with no opp'ty to get a word in edgewise, would you?
True. But talking about TV and Trader Joe's aren't what make a guy interesting. I'm not even sure the issue is about "interesting" so much (who are these women the OP got dissed by, anyway??), but about showing interest in the gf (as opposed to blathering on about oneself), being fun, spontaneous, and creative, and... having interesting musical tastes tends to be helpful. idk, I think the OP just happened to have a rash of bad luck, or something. Picked the wrong women.
Heh. Yea I know you are more laidback because I've read your posts. I'm just used to dealing with too many people who want you to impress them or they start yawning.
Believe it or not, TV is a great source of conversation. Not everybody is going to be able to talk about your unique experiences or cool books you've read, so TV and Trader Joes gets conversation flowing.
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How about traveling because you want to see the world and stories come out of it?
Or do you write? Paint? Anything artistic? Are you in a band?
Do you organize something for a charity? Or work on an invention / a start up?
What are you PASSIONATE about?
People with passions are fun/exciting. People that get up, go to work, come up, watch tv, go to sleep, repeat. Etc. Well, that isn't exciting. You might be a great bloke, but there are lots of very nice men and women out there that are dull as sh*t.
If only you knew dude.
The problem is that you have to make $ to live and your passion doesn't always line up with that. Especially for men this is true. Would a woman rather date a broke musician or a guy who likes to listen to music and see shows but has a good job as a software programmer?
Interesting in a guy..... If he likes independent music/movies. Found this one Australian artist I like now from a guy I met. Other things.... If he likes cars, esp older defunct turbo ones, can appreciate art, and if I can talk to him on a variety of subjects, not just politics, boring fluff and how he majored in a certain subject because he was told to by his parents.
Uninteresting..... When he's stuffy/formal. I'm formal enough. When he brings up how he's in LOVE with Taylor Swift (she's good singing live... But not a huge fan). And if he says that he doesn't like trying something new once in a while.
Op, you won't be interesting to everyone...but you will be interesting to someone. An overall generalization that you're not interesting and you need to improve it is a dis on yourself. Maybe this girl wasn't interesting enough in her own right and needed you to entertain her. Small minds are like that...they constantly get bored and need someone around to provide the entertainment.
I'm so glad that I'm off the market these days because girls sometimes give me headache. They all say they want a nice guy but they all go for assho1es. Because I was once a nice guy turned into an assho1e because that worked out much better.
Being a nice guy like holding doors for girls and taking them out to dinner will get you nowhere. You treat them like cattle and they come barking and calling everynight looking for affection.
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