Girls say I'm not interesting enough, what makes a guy interesting/not interesting?

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Originally Posted by BajanYankee

I've only skimmed the thread but my sense is that the advice being given to the OP is different from the advice that would be given to a woman in the same situation.

If someone tells you that you're not interesting, the solution shouldn't be to try to become more interesting. The OP should simply find someone who appreciates him for who he is.

I've always found it interesting that it in many of these discussions there's this latent assumption that men have to earn women.

I have seen that concept a slightly different way.

Like if you are a woman, there is only one way to "earn men"...look good to their eyeballs. Fortunately there's not one universal standard of what men find visually appealing, despite commonly accepted "cultural beauty standards"...guys as individuals often have a range of preferences that would surprise women who believe we have to look one particular way. But it tends to be mostly looks-based from what men tend to say.

And then men want to insist it's that way going the opposite direction but I have never thought so. More like if you are a man, you just have to have SOMETHING going for you. Maybe it's not looks, but it's money. Maybe it's neither, but it's talent. Maybe you don't have talent, but you're funny. OK maybe not that, but you're thoughtful and kind, intelligent or well read, or tough or athletic or... Something.

Women get one thing. If we can't appeal to someone based on our looks? Forget it.

Men? You can dump your points into any one stat, out of a number of possibilities, and find some woman who will value for it, or at least give you a chance. Pick one. You're only gonna fail if you sit there being a lump without a single redeeming quality, or (more likely) if you self sabotage hard enough that none of the rest matters.

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Went off topic and turned into gender battle.