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To be clear this isn't about me or anyone in particular, I just hear conflicting opinions on it and I'd like to see what people think.
Does talking frequently hurt or help your chances with normal/well adjusted girls? As in texting, calling, Facebook messaging etc, obviously seeing them in person is never a bad thing.
Some say its good to keep girls "waiting" and that its a good way to avoid being "friend zoned". I say that you're better off showing you're interested and giving her attention so she actually thinks about you and goes for you when you ask her out on a date.
To be clear this isn't about me or anyone in particular, I just hear conflicting opinions on it and I'd like to see what people think.
Does talking frequently hurt or help your chances with normal/well adjusted girls? As in texting, calling, Facebook messaging etc, obviously seeing them in person is never a bad thing.
Some say its good to keep girls "waiting" and that its a good way to avoid being "friend zoned". I say that you're better off showing you're interested and giving her attention so she actually thinks about you and goes for you when you ask her out on a date.
It really depends on a lot of factors. I'd say talk frequently with well adjusted "girls." That keeps her warm. Just don't overdo it (like when she is sleeping, or something). Don't make her your whole universe. Just have other things going on than her. Don't be a clinger.
There is no one size fits all deal. Some people are good asking out right off the bat. Others may need to ease into a date.
It's a balance. Can't seem too eager but not uninterested. Tip: be genuinely busy and awesome so when you have time to respond your not playing a waiting game.
To be clear this isn't about me or anyone in particular, I just hear conflicting opinions on it and I'd like to see what people think.
Does talking frequently hurt or help your chances with normal/well adjusted girls? As in texting, calling, Facebook messaging etc, obviously seeing them in person is never a bad thing.
Some say its good to keep girls "waiting" and that its a good way to avoid being "friend zoned". I say that you're better off showing you're interested and giving her attention so she actually thinks about you and goes for you when you ask her out on a date.
Right when they are about to forget about you ... Bing! Text message them.
Personally I like a lot of attention from the guy I like.
Key word here is I like. If she/he doesn't like you, then likely any attention you give them is going to turn them off. Feeding that person attention, just weirds them out, and puts more balls in their court. The hard part is getting to that point where you both know you like each other and are making an effort to see where things go.
In general, it never hurts to keep communications flowing. It is a very good thing to ask questions and be interested in her. For one... presumably you are interested so you want to get to know this woman. Secondly, she will know your interested because she will recognize that you are thinking about her and asking her about herself and her interests.
I am not a big believer in the friend zone. That said, I think guys who feel they get friend zoned do so because they fail to take initiative and make appropriate "romantic" moves. Not because they communicate or are friendly in nature.
IMO (and others may disagree) the best relationships are ones where your romantic lover is also one of your best friends.
I think guys by and large WAY over do it with the texting and contacting of girls they are into. Let me put it this way, both personally and amongst my friends, I have yet to see/have over-communication lead to actually getting with the girl. It without fail ends up as a "friends only" relationship, you get too close to her and she enjoys talking to you and wants to keep it like that. The girl gets off on all the attention and it gives her something to do, but it doesn't actually attract them and inspire them to hook up with you.
It does depend on the vibe of the guy doing the conversing, where your at in the relationship, and the content of the conversing. But in general, less is more, imo. Unless you know what your doing your just digging your own grave and talking her out of it.
I think guys by and large WAY over do it with the texting and contacting of girls they are into. Let me put it this way, both personally and amongst my friends, I have yet to see/have over-communication lead to actually getting with the girl. It without fail ends up as a "friends only" relationship, you get too close to her and she enjoys talking to you and wants to keep it like that. The girl gets off on all the attention and it gives her something to do, but it doesn't actually attract them and inspire them to hook up with you.
It does depend on the vibe of the guy doing the conversing, where your at in the relationship, and the content of the conversing. But in general, less is more, imo. Unless you know what your doing your just digging your own grave and talking her out of it.
I can absolutely agree with this.
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