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And how is fishing for attention and compliments NOT a behavior of someone with low self-esteem? If you feel so sorry for yourself and have such low confidence that you have to come on the internet and ask a bunch of strangers to tell you you're beautiful, unique, worthy, and amazing...you have low self-esteem. If you think your entire life is pointless or that you can never be loved because this trait or that trait...you have low self-esteem.
Maybe you have a different understanding of that term than I do?
the trick is to only go for women who also have low self esteem
A question I've been wondering is would this relationship normally work out? Is it one of those things where because they both have similar issues, they would bond over it and a couple with self-esteem issues is a great match, or does it create double trouble that both members of the couple tire of?
Low self-esteem is obnoxious because it's generally indicative of someone who's incredibly self-centered and unreasonably self-conscious. I argue the exact opposite that you do: posters here with low self-esteem are the shallowest of them all because the only thing they focus on are their looks and status relative to peers and the media.
Sure, some people were bullied or whatever, and that led to their low self-esteem. That's legit, and I genuinely feel sorry for people like that. But the majority of the people here, whose insecurities manifest as "am I ugly?" or "men/women think I'm repulsive!" threads, just need to get over themselves.
I don't think they are necessarily more self-centered, but one thing they probably have in common is they are overanalyzers. They are blessed or cursed with a mind that thinks and weighs decisions and situations all the time.
A question I've been wondering is would this relationship normally work out? Is it one of those things where because they both have similar issues, they would bond over it and a couple with self-esteem issues is a great match, or does it create double trouble that both members of the couple tire of?
It depends on the type, but IMO it is a positive.
That's what I am looking for. I want a woman who has been taken down a couple of notches, who has experienced some setbacks and has some humility. I want a woman who doesn't think she's beautiful, but does think she's cute every now and then, even if she really happens to be beautiful.
When you have the OPPOSITE, you have a woman who thinks she is above you, better than you, and will put you down.
That's what I am looking for. I want a woman who has been taken down a couple of notches, who has experienced some setbacks and has some humility. I want a woman who doesn't think she's beautiful, but does think she's cute every now and then, even if she really happens to be beautiful.
When you have the OPPOSITE, you have a woman who thinks she is above you, better than you, and will put you down.
I agree, but haven't seen it in action, so I'm not sure how it works in practice. The way I see it, two people on the low end of the self-esteem scale would be ok propping each other up because they can relate to each other, and, since they have low self-esteem, they tend to see the positives in others and really appreciate it vs themselves. This is where it might work well, especially as friends. You can support each other, and then move on to more confident men or women once you've improved your own self-esteem from this experience.
low self esteem is skunk juice to women. however lots of ability health and talent and a rational self opinion of those accomplishments overrides low self esteem. please see film---- water boy.
low self esteem is skunk juice to women. however lots of ability health and talent and a rational self opinion of those accomplishments overrides low self esteem. please see film---- water boy.
Do you think this is as true for low self-esteem women as it is for confident women? I can see where many women who have low confidence levels themselves wouldn't mind or may not even notice low confidence in men.
I agree, but haven't seen it in action, so I'm not sure how it works in practice. The way I see it, two people on the low end of the self-esteem scale would be ok propping each other up because they can relate to each other, and, since they have low self-esteem, they tend to see the positives in others and really appreciate it vs themselves. This is where it might work well, especially as friends. You can support each other, and then move on to more confident men or women once you've improved your own self-esteem from this experience.
I agree with everything except your last sentence.
I am in general looking for somebody with a 'lower' self esteem, though I have yet to meet too many women who fit this. But there have been a few.
Just from my experience, low self esteem in the way that you see it amongst men in this forum does not play a factor in relationships. Generally, male posters here tend to think they are unattractive and that is the reason why they cannot get women. When they are in a relationship, how is that going to come out or be negative? It's not like me and ex are walking down the street and I'm telling her how ugly I think I am.
However, inflated egos can come out very negatively.
Planting fresh cut flowers in your buttcrack does wonders for your self esteem.
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