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Old 12-10-2013, 06:15 PM
 
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On the internet I like to vent about the fact that I am not good enough, due to the fact that I am single. I don't have a family to come back to for the holidays, I am not rich, I am not charismatic, I am not sexy, I am not experienced in bed, I am not a comedian, I will buy my car next year, I have not yet finished my education, I have poor memories (even though my memory is good), I don't have any exciting tales to tell, I have frequent nightmares, my good friends that I know well live elsewhere, I wear hearing aids AND glasses, I suck at reading body language, I am timid around women.

Sure, I am knowledgeable, I am polite, I can have an interesting debate conversation, I like to listen to people, I can make people laugh *sonetimes*, but the fact is, I have not been able to capture and keep the interest of women like the men better than me have. My female friends said they wish their BFs were more like me, yet, I am not their BF.


Despite that, I do my best to keep a grin on my face and keep my frustrations online (one interesting thing is I've only heard advice for seeing a therapist is on CD). Do women really see through all of this? Or am I too inferior? Or do most people here get married early, and I've misses the boat?
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Old 12-10-2013, 06:32 PM
 
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On the internet I like to vent about the fact that I am not good enough, due to the fact that I am single. I don't have a family to come back to for the holidays, I am not rich, I am not charismatic, I am not sexy, I am not experienced in bed, I am not a comedian, I will buy my car next year, I have not yet finished my education, I have poor memories (even though my memory is good), I don't have any exciting tales to tell, I have frequent nightmares, my good friends that I know well live elsewhere, I wear hearing aids AND glasses, I suck at reading body language, I am timid around women.

Sure, I am knowledgeable, I am polite, I can have an interesting debate conversation, I like to listen to people, I can make people laugh *sonetimes*, but the fact is, I have not been able to capture and keep the interest of women like the men better than me have. My female friends said they wish their BFs were more like me, yet, I am not their BF.



Despite that, I do my best to keep a grin on my face and keep my frustrations online (one interesting thing is I've only heard advice for seeing a therapist is on CD). Do women really see through all of this? Or am I too inferior? Or do most people here get married early, and I've misses the boat?
Yes, women spot it a mile away. They're more in touch with their emotions thsan us men - they have a heightened 6th sense. Noticing someone with low self esteem isn't that difficult. They way you talk on this forum you probably effectively walk around with a neon sign above your head displaying it for the world to see.

That entire bit I've highlighted in bold is awful, you have a high case of self loathing. Your never going to get anywehre if you don't change your attitude. The reason you can't keep women is because your so negative & lack self esteem.
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Old 12-10-2013, 06:36 PM
 
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"Do women notice low self esteem?"

Do bald eagles fly?
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Old 12-10-2013, 06:39 PM
 
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On the internet I like to vent about the fact that I am not good enough, due to the fact that I am single. I don't have a family to come back to for the holidays, I am not rich, I am not charismatic, I am not sexy, I am not experienced in bed, I am not a comedian, I will buy my car next year, I have not yet finished my education, I have poor memories (even though my memory is good), I don't have any exciting tales to tell, I have frequent nightmares, my good friends that I know well live elsewhere, I wear hearing aids AND glasses, I suck at reading body language, I am timid around women.

Sure, I am knowledgeable, I am polite, I can have an interesting debate conversation, I like to listen to people, I can make people laugh *sonetimes*, but the fact is, I have not been able to capture and keep the interest of women like the men better than me have. My female friends said they wish their BFs were more like me, yet, I am not their BF.


Despite that, I do my best to keep a grin on my face and keep my frustrations online (one interesting thing is I've only heard advice for seeing a therapist is on CD). Do women really see through all of this? Or am I too inferior? Or do most people here get married early, and I've misses the boat?
Those are facts???
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Old 12-10-2013, 06:42 PM
 
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When it's obvious, yes.
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Old 12-10-2013, 06:48 PM
 
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Yes, women spot it a mile away. They're more in touch with their emotions thsan us men - they have a heightened 6th sense. Noticing someone with low self esteem isn't that difficult. They way you talk on this forum you probably effectively walk around with a neon sign above your head displaying it for the world to see.

That entire bit I've highlighted in bold is awful, you have a high case of self loathing. Your never going to get anywehre if you don't change your attitude. The reason you can't keep women is because your so negative & lack self esteem.
What he said.



And even if a woman doesn't notice it as low self esteem in particular and can't place her finger on it, at the very least she will feel something is "off" about you.

You really need to talk to someone who can help you professionally. You could have a simple medical reason for (what comes across to me) as depression. Get help and you will feel a lot better and your self esteem will go up, etc.
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Old 12-10-2013, 06:52 PM
 
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It stands out like a green hat with an orange bill.
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Old 12-10-2013, 07:44 PM
 
Location: FL
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It really doesn't matter because if the guy is hot with low self esteem, they'll step in and take on a rescue and rehabilitation role.
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Old 12-10-2013, 07:44 PM
 
Location: southern california
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low self esteem is like skunk juice for women.
this part i understand. Mod cut: Off topic.

Last edited by PJSaturn; 12-10-2013 at 08:09 PM..
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Old 12-10-2013, 07:47 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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EVERYONE notices low self-esteem.
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