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I've been reading some threads here and it seems like most guys get their gf through school, work, friends, etc where they have something in common. For example, attend same classes, work at the same place.
But what if you cold approach them at the mall, grocery store, etc are they likely to reject you? I think the situation is different since they are out shopping and minding their own business.
For me it has nothing to do with me minding my own business, I don't like cold approaches because I don't know who the person it. I'll be friendly and such, but there really is no attraction or interest on my part (at first) because I have no idea if the person walking up to me is compatible. I always suggest to get acquainted with a woman first, if you can (mainly because that's how I get interested in a man).
Of course, that's not to say cold approach never works. I am just saying it never works with me. All women are different in their openness and their varying degrees of openness to that approach.
I wonder (and this is just speculation on my part) that the women more open to meeting men on a cold approach are more interested in looks. I am not saying I don't care about the appearance of a man, but it's a low priority for me--especially if every thing else lines up. But for some women, it might be higher priority and therefore are open to a cold approach because literally, the only thing they can tell about you is your looks. But then you have to have the type of look that woman finds attractive--so it's still not in your favor.
Odds are against you in a public setting (exclude bars/clubs) for a cold approach. You dont know if that person is single, taken, or even interested, but its worth a try, IMO.
I've been reading some threads here and it seems like most guys get their gf through school, work, friends, etc where they have something in common. For example, attend same classes, work at the same place.
But what if you cold approach them at the mall, grocery store, etc are they likely to reject you? I think the situation is different since they are out shopping and minding their own business.
The only places you want cold approach women is where it is expected and considered appropriate--e.g. bars and nightclubs. Cold approaching women in places like grocery stores will almost always seem harassing or even slightly threatening to most women. It may work sometimes, for some men, but it isn't a good idea overall.
I have had a couple of very successful interactions with strangers who I felt that so-called spark with in public.
But it never was a case of him coming up to me while I was trying to find the perfect tomato at the grocery store. It usually took place as we both were experiencing something together.
For example, one time I was waiting in a very long line for some tickets. The guy in front of me looked cute, but we didn't really interact UNTIL...
this woman started freaking out about someone cutting in front of her, security came, etc. After it died down we all kind of laughed and went back to waiting. But the guy in front of me looked at me and said, "THAT was weird." We laughed, and then he asked me if I had seen this band before. (This was pre-internet, children.)
And we were off! He COULD have asked me for my number, and I would have given it.
Another very attractive man hit on me in the line at a funeral once. We even went to lunch after, but that's a story for another day.
Moral of my story? Find a long line, and go stand next to a cute girl.
I've been reading some threads here and it seems like most guys get their gf through school, work, friends, etc where they have something in common. For example, attend same classes, work at the same place.
But what if you cold approach them at the mall, grocery store, etc are they likely to reject you? I think the situation is different since they are out shopping and minding their own business.
uh, well..
you basically have to accept beforehand that you're going to get rejected quite a bit.
and you have to be socially aware enough not to go around offending people.
and you have to be good at starting a conversation out of the clear blue sky
but if none of that is an issue, i reckon there's nothing wrong with it.
I actually had a date from a cold approach once. I was making a salad at the salad bar at the supermarket, and this man who was also doing the same just asked me if he could take me to dinner instead, I said yes and we walked to a place a couple blocks away (note that I would NOT have gotten in a car with him). It turned out we weren't that compatible, but it was still a nice time. I wouldn't make cold approach an everyday plan, but if an opportunity arises, no harm in going for it. I admired him for having the guts to ask.
Why couldn't it work? There have been times I was out in public where I noticed a guy and we made eye contact and smiled...but nothing. Can people not read body language anymore? If she's got her nose in her phone or avoids making eye contact, don't approach her. If she smiles at you and seems warm and friendly, then sure approach her. Is it really that soul crushing to be told a stranger has a boyfriend or says no to a date? You don't even know her. Take a chance guys!
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