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I know a man who was living with his girlfriend for almost 20 years. She wanted to get married and he was against it because he didn't believe in marriage or monogamy. She finally left when she realized he wasn't going to commit. He dated around for a few years and is now married to his new girlfriend .
I am perplexed by this. He was adamantly against marriage and his new wife is no where near what his long term gf was in terms of the quality of their relationship. What do you think is going on in this guy's head? I find the whole thing illogical.
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simple psychology to it, when the 20 year left he probably regretted it, now anybody who comes along he will suddenly wife in fears he will once again lose the girl he lost before..
It is illogical. I have a feeling he was only living with his gf out of a commodity, hasn't been feeling the sparks for years and was probably already talking with the new woman while planning all along for his relationship to be over.
Because, generally, you are treated the way you allow yourself to be treated. Apparently, the new lady in his life was not going to be content being a "girl friend" and he did not wish to lose her.
He had the upper hand with the original girlfriend. He got what he wanted in her living with him without having to accept her terms.
In the second case, either the new girlfriend refused to live with him without marriage, or she was a younger woman and he felt at a disadvantage and married her in order to get her.
I know a man who was living with his girlfriend for almost 20 years. She wanted to get married and he was against it because he didn't believe in marriage or monogamy. She finally left when she realized he wasn't going to commit. He dated around for a few years and is now married to his new girlfriend .
I am perplexed by this. He was adamantly against marriage and his new wife is no where near what his long term gf was in terms of the quality of their relationship. What do you think is going on in this guy's head? I find the whole thing illogical.
But he wasn't against marriage.
He was only against marriage with her.
If marriage was so important to her, she should have left years sooner
I'm guessing he just loved the second girlfriend more. Sad, but it happens.
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