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I think the relationship, in the terms specified in the original post, is working. He knows she's hooked. She can't help herself. This could go on a lifetime. And it seems like he has experience with knowing just when and how to breakup, so she feels she needs to beg him to come back.
My recommendation: don't tell her what to do. I have tried helping a friend in the past get out of a relationship very similar to this, and the friend ended up hating me rather than the boyfriend. It was awful. Be there for her and let her understand the impact of her own decisions. If she doesn't, that's not on you to make her understand. If she does ask for advice, be honest but don't push her. It's awful seeing some people go through this, but that's a part of growing. If you keep on saving someone right at their moment of truth, then they're bound to go through the same thing over and over again. It seems like she's doing that well enough on her own though.
Of course the "upside" to all this is that the guy sounds like such a loser, even though he keeps thinking he can do better, he can't so he keeps coming back.
Relationship and functional are two different words. I have a relationship with the local tax assessor. It will continue to be antagonistic, and there's no getting away from it. A romantic endeavor should be without such conflict. But again, relationship and functional... and for them, it is working. What's it matter?
and admitted he shouldn't have broke up with her, etc. But then one day they were talking about the future, and he admitted he didn't know if he could see a future with her. And then like a week later he said that he could. So she was assured. Then a few months later she found a text that he had sent to a woman claiming she had nice "boobs". He confronted her about looking in his phone then dumped her. ?
In my opinion, this kind of toxic relationship will never work out. Obviously, the girl loves the guy a little bit more. Relationship is not equal.
In my opinion, this kind of toxic relationship will never work out. Obviously, the girl loves the guy a little bit more. Relationship is not equal.
Your girlfriend should wake up and move on.
Sounds better than some of brutal divorces a lot of people go through.
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