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It depends. If a guy asks me out I expect him to pay and likewise I expect to pay if I ask him out. However most guys I've dated expected to pay even if I asked him out.
Here's what annoys me are when guys ask me out then expect me to pay or worse expect me to pay for HIM. I do offer but if a guy insists on me paying then he will never get another date.
You are one of the most cynical people I have ever come across. A quick search on your posts and have mercy, WOW. Do women a favor and don't date....ever.
Forty lashes with a wet noodle for necromancing a thread about a topic that has been beaten beyond death and right on into particulate matter that has gone back out into the universe and will now only serve to congeal back into a forum for bitter jerks who are ticked off that they might actually have to pay for a date that they ask for because heaven forbid they do something NICE for a woman like take her out.
Just saying.
Regardless, if it's OLD, I make it clear that it's dutch. And guess what? Nine times out of ten, the guy is going to insist on paying for most or all of it anyway. If he tells me "no, put that away" or "I'll get this but if you'd like to leave the tip, that would be fine," I'm not going to argue.
If I ask someone out, I expect to pay.
If someone asks me out, I am prepared to pay my way and will bring money with me, but I expect him to tell me that it's on him when I take my wallet out, and invariably they do.
Whoever asks, pays. That is the rule of hosting a date. If you can't afford to take someone out, don't ask for the date.
Some guys on here can pizz and moan until they turn blue in the face, but it has nothing to do with gender roles and everything to do with good manners. You don't ask business, wedding, or romantic guests to pay for their own meals when you are the one who invited them. You are a host, they are guests, and hosts don't ask guests to pay. That's just how well-bred people operate.
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Regardless, if it's OLD, I make it clear that it's dutch. And guess what? Nine times out of ten, the guy is going to insist on paying for most or all of it anyway. If he tells me "no, put that away" or "I'll get this but if you'd like to leave the tip, that would be fine," I'm not going to argue.
This is my experience. If I like her I just say you can get next time, or, how about a nightcap... or something along those lines.
You are one of the most cynical people I have ever come across. A quick search on your posts and have mercy, WOW. Do women a favor and don't date....ever.
I don't date. If you are a man, dating is for suckers.
Now as for doing other things.............
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