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Old 01-01-2014, 10:21 AM
 
Location: Midwest
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What would you choose?

A very kind, sensitive man/woman ... but you have a dream job on the other side of the planet.

I hate to admit ... as much a romantic as I am, I'd choose career.
Nothing in life is a garuntee. You have an unbelievable opportunity either way go for it but don't expect it to last
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Old 01-01-2014, 10:22 AM
 
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You are kind of choosing, because if you pick a low paying career, or don't have much of one, it will severely limit your choices in women.
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Old 01-01-2014, 10:26 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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This girl has both!
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Old 01-01-2014, 11:24 AM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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I think plenty of people have both and are happy with both. I don't think it's uncommon for someone to have a good career that pays well and offers nice advancement opportunities, a wonderful partner or spouse, one or more kids (and yes spends quality time with them), a hobby or two on the side, and a nice social life with friends. Yes, this includes demanding occupations in the medical, tech or legal fields, as well as professions that require some domestic and/or international business travel. It boils down to priorities. It may be challenging at times, and some compromises may have to be made (for instance, living in an area that's good for kids and/or good for your partner's line of work and/or has good commute)...but the bottom line is that at least some of these people are able to make it all work.

That said, yes, there are situations where someone may have no choice but to choose...to perhaps not take that once-in-a-lifetime opportunity or give up their "dream" job in their life. One example is if a married couple has a special-needs child that requires a lot of attention...that full-time awesome job that pays $120K/year may have to be given up and replaced with a lower-paying part-time or flexible-hour job that allows him to be at home more often.
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Old 01-01-2014, 11:38 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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...and, in the example you stated, taking a pay cut or leaving your job to care for your special needs child full time can be a definite catch-22, given the often astronomical health, education, and therapy costs that can be involved in caring for said child. As a special education teacher, I have often seen the hardship that occurs when a parent both can't afford to work F/T and can't afford NOT to.
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Old 01-01-2014, 11:49 AM
 
Location: SF CA, USA
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Career. In this economy, being able to do something you really are passionate about and make a living off of it is a luxury most don't get to enjoy.
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Old 01-01-2014, 12:54 PM
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i havent dated in a few years, mainly because im focusing on my career and where i want to be. i know exactly where i want to be and im inching closer to my career goals. once im satisfied i will explode on the dating scene. ive passed on a lot of opportunities to date, but i usually just end up hanging out with a girl and then move on to the next.
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Old 01-01-2014, 05:18 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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A lot of my feelings on this hinged quite a bit on age/stage of life, for me personally.

When I was a recent college graduate, I was all about getting my career started, and relationships/dating were really a back burner priority priority. My first two years out of college, I actually actively avoided dating even casually...it just wasn't on my radar, because I was focused on establishing myself professionally, to the exclusion of all else. Flash forward a decade or so, and while I like my career and am good at what I do, relationships/family hold a lot more personal value and significance to me. It wasn't a hard choice at all to put my work on hold for my relationship when the opportunity to do so without incurring financial hardship in our household occurred.
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Old 01-01-2014, 07:14 PM
 
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I don't believe in dream jobs! Unless you are lucky enough to know exactly what you love to do, it can make money, and you have all the abilities it takes to run a business, I don't think most of us will ever find that.

I do believe in good relationships so I would take love. It make make a crappy job seem not as important.

(singing)

Dream job
You make my heart throb
You make everything grooo-vee
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Old 01-03-2014, 04:11 AM
 
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What would you choose?

A very kind, sensitive man/woman ... but you have a dream job on the other side of the planet.

I hate to admit ... as much a romantic as I am, I'd choose career.
Love doesn't pay the bills, so I wouldn't waste her time or mine. However, I would do all I could to have the dream job and keep the s/o.
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