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I'm so sick of these rules style self help books in regards to getting a man. Don't give him "the cookie" for 90 days, test him by pretending something is wrong and see if he rescues you, never ever contact him first and act like a total **tch. Men love this.
Give me a break. There is no single formula that works on every man, as all men are different, and there are no guarantees in any relationship whether you sleep with them in 7 days or 90. And what if you wait 90 days, build an emotional connection and then he sucks in the sack? Then you just wasted 90 days and how do you explain dumping him? I really like you, but you have the bedroom skills of an 18 year old virgin. That will go over real well. And yes, I have had this happen to me
Or what if the guy waits because he loves a challenge, but then you never hear from them after they sleep with you? And who needs 90 days to figure someone out? I know within a few dates if there is any future potential.
I find these tactics to be manipulative and feel that most women with a lick of common sense and people reading skills should be able to determine if a man is right for her without resorting to these tactics.
I'm so sick of these rules style self help books in regards to getting a man. Don't give him "the cookie" for 90 days, test him by pretending something is wrong and see if he rescues you, never ever contact him first and act like a total **tch. Men love this.
Give me a break. There is no single formula that works on every man, as all men are different, and there are no guarantees in any relationship whether you sleep with them in 7 days or 90. And what if you wait 90 days, build an emotional connection and then he sucks in the sack? Then you just wasted 90 days and how do you explain dumping him? I really like you, but you have the bedroom skills of an 18 year old virgin. That will go over real well. And yes, I have had this happen to me
Or what if the guy waits because he loves a challenge, but then you never hear from them after they sleep with you? And who needs 90 days to figure someone out? I know within a few dates if there is any future potential.
I find these tactics to be manipulative and feel that most women with a lick of common sense and people reading skills should be able to determine if a man is right for her without resorting to these tactics.
Perhaps many people lack common sense and people reading skills?
At least one of the Rules authors got divorced. Another one that drives me nuts is "He's Just Not That Into You". That book doesn't take in consideration that maybe the guy is busy or shy or whatever. Besides was it written by an expert? nope a comedian with an alcohol addiction. The only one that has a lot of sense is "Why Men Like". That one has some great advice like the woman should have her own life besides dating.
Btw one of the biggest lies I saw in these books was play hard to get. Many men I have known got the idea the woman wasn't interested when she played hard to get.
At least one of the Rules authors got divorced. Another one that drives me nuts is "He's Just Not That Into You". That book doesn't take in consideration that maybe the guy is busy or shy or whatever. Besides was it written by an expert? nope a comedian with an alcohol addiction. The only one that has a lot of sense is "Why Men Like". That one has some great advice like the woman should have her own life besides dating.
Btw one of the biggest lies I saw in these books was play hard to get. Many men I have known got the idea the woman wasn't interested when she played hard to get.
I like self-help books...but dating rules books are the worst! Stopped reading them a long time ago.
I like self-help books...but dating rules books are the worst! Stopped reading them a long time ago.
FTW!
I feel the same way, these dating books tend to be for people who are looking for some magic formula that will guarantee them success. But dating just isn't like that 98% of the time. It's mostly a trial and error process.
However, a person could increase their chances they do more introspection and get know themselves. By knowing themselves they will know exactly what they want.
The best self help books I ever read weren't really self help books at all, they were a series of books written by Robert Fulgham who first wrote, "Everything I Needed To Know I Learned In Kindergarten." I think I've read 10 of his books.
They really shed light on reality in a well written and often humorous way teaching that a good sense of humor about things and all these different scenerios in life teach us something about ourselves and mankind in general without being preachy and rigid.
If you want to read a self help book read one of his books. His first one is good and I really liked "It Was On Fire When I Lay Down On It." The title story of that book was funny and he wrote, "Out of the frying pan and into the fire. I knew it wasn't good for me - but I did it anyway. How many of us could say that about our own lives?"
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