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10 would already be too much. Only if it were in long-term relationships and no casual sex, which I highly doubt (that means he would have had to last 1 year in a relationship since age 16) then maybe. My range is from 0-6/7. It's both the number and cavalier attitude to me.
Nope, I wouldn't want a guy that went to prison, constant/heavy smoker nor drug addict.
how would anyone really know,,?? its not like we have a sex odometer ..
so, if i told you 5 and it was really 18 , yet i was quite a gentlemen,,,how would you ever know?
that road goes both ways,,,a guy wouldnt know either...
bottom line, who you meet today is the end or accumulated result of all his experiences to this point in time,,who you meet today is a much different person than 10 years ago,,people do mature
its funny, the single ladies, ive met in my past, I NEVER asked how many different sexual partners theyve had- who they are is who they are...
but,,,most of the ladies, did ask me,
how would anyone really know,,?? its not like we have a sex odometer ..
so, if i told you 5 and it was really 18 , yet i was quite a gentlemen,,,how would you ever know?
that road goes both ways,,,a guy wouldnt know either...
Well it's one thing if he actually lied his way through and plays it out too well to the point there are no signs, which I doubt and I never find out. However, it would really suck if I found out later on. I would still have to break up.
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bottom line, who you meet today is the end or accumulated result of all his experiences to this point in time,,who you meet today is a much different person than 10 years ago,,people do mature
It really means so much to me that he didn't have to go through all that wild period to mature and it's of a low past. As mentioned, I don't want someone changed that used to treat sex differently. I want someone that's always been low in sexual past, only into relationship type and still is.
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Originally Posted by mainebrokerman
its funny, the single ladies, ive met in my past, I NEVER asked how many different sexual partners theyve had- who they are is who they are...
but,,,most of the ladies, did ask me,
Some of us do care about a man's sexual past and it's really a myth then many men think we don't. It's really a myth that all of us like men that sleep around. We don't and many times I believe some women might be only staying with them because they're compromising and trying to play the understanding role, something I refuse to do.
I believe that if you held yourself to the standard you're asking in a partner in return than you have ever rights to judge that and not accept him/her if they're totally different. I'm sorry but if he had promiscuous past, even if he's remorseful I'm still going to judge that and walk away. I never lived that modern lifestyle and never will, not interested in it either.
Are you afraid of being compared to other woman in bed?
Just because sex was casual in the past, doesn't mean it has to be casual with you.
Thanks... well it's ok if others like compromising and don't mind making someone who had ONS, FWB their long-term bf/gf. I'm just not ok with that at all and stay firm on my point. They can keep trying their rebuttals and that's still not going to change my mind nor reconsider my deal-breaker. Yes, I've kind of heard of the HurricaneKid before.
My best experiences were with men who had a low count (<10). These men highly valued intimacy as opposed to "sex" in the casual sense. They valued intimacy above all else.
This would mirror my experience even though very few women will tell you how many men they have been with unless it was a very low count.
My biggest concern of a very high count person would be that they would have intimacy issues and I could just be a substitute for any man.
The OP could just as easily marry a man who had been with 25 women and she would never know it unless his family and friends told her.
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