What percentage of the opposite sex do you think you could potentially really love/marry/be in a LTR with? (lover, college)
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Realistically, and based on past dating experience, less than 1%. Up to 5% are reasonably compatible and attractive for dating, but very few are LTR material. That's based on very extensive dating experience in my 40's, my criteria at that time, and applies only to women I met who were +/- 10 years of my age. Now, I think perhaps 2-3% would meet my criteria, if I'm being generous. Of course, I do have some very specific and somewhat unusual criteria which limits my dating pool.
Wow. I'm probably looking at less than a fraction of a percent. I don't even know how low I'd have to go. 0.0000000000000000000000000001%? LOL.
I'm atheist (prefer atheist or agnostic partner).
I don't want kids and will only date a man who is also absolutely against having kids and doesn't have any.
I'd rather not get married again, but if it means the world to him, I'd consider.
(Those three right there cut me down to at least 1%)
I need somewhat of a bad boy.
Someone who'll love my dog as much as I do (or treat him damned well).
Someone who can express himself
Someone who knows themselves well (I hate men who say, "I don't know" all the time)
Someone introverted
Someone who's values and beliefs are mostly on the same lines as mine
Someone who has good grammar (yeah, I'm starting to see that's somewhat important to me)
Someone who's not afraid to play and have fun
And to think, that's just the major things I'm looking for. We haven't even hit on looks yet. Oh yeah, WAY below 1%. I can't even fathom 5% being compatible with me. I'd probably think I hit the jackpot.
It depends on how you define "average". If you mean not beautiful but not ugly, then that is fine. If you mean statistically, what the average American male looks like, probably not, but mainly because they are too fat. I dated someone skinny, short with a receding hairline, who easily is average, so I am not extremely picky about looks.
But personality is a different story. I've never gelled easily with most PEOPLE, which includes men, and then combine that with mutual attraction, compatible goals, beliefs & lifestyles, and the pickings are very slim. The latter is actually the hardest - I am not a career woman nor do I want to be a mom in the 'burbs. I want a semi-nomadic, bohemian meets missionary kind of lifestyle. I'm not focused on stability, status or material things, and it's unusual for me to find someone like-minded.
I did this as a mental experiment many years ago and came out with maybe a 1% estimate. Age, personality type, intelligence, appearance, childfree, non-religious, etc. Not even including things like shared interests and values. It's still plaguing me Maybe the votes here show I'm not insanely picky, but it's strangely not comforting at all.
Am I the only person who thinks 20-40%? I have dealbreaker traits but I have liked a wide variety of guys. I don't think I'm that picky but it doesn't mean I'll just date whoever either. If there's a connection I will pursue it.
Am I the only person who thinks 20-40%? I have dealbreaker traits but I have liked a wide variety of guys. I don't think I'm that picky but it doesn't mean I'll just date whoever either. If there's a connection I will pursue it.
I pursue connections too, but they are RARE. Some people don't connect easily...
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Maybe the votes here show I'm not insanely picky, but it's strangely not comforting at all.
