If someone said this to you: (lesbians, women, dance, Latin)
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He hasn't pimped me out. I didnt even go to the party that he invited me to. And how doesnt he respect me or treats me like a *****? Because of the dick jokes???? He's never made them directly about me.... I do have pride and self respect. I don't have sex with him or do anything sexual with him at all. And like I said I now know to take anything he says with a grain of salt.
If a friend of the opposite sex said the following to you:
"You're a mess... You drive me nuts and I shake my head at the things you do constantly but I would never want you to change"
And,
"I really miss you... Our relationship is funny, it reminds me of a movie, I can't think of the name though."
When you question them about it, he/she says:"of course I care about you... Etc"
He/she then invites you out to a party to meet his/her friends and asks you to dress sexy.
And yet the few times you hung out with them in the past you never got a "feel" that he/she cared about u in anyway(romantic or otherwise). And you even saw that he/she was playing the field. So you kept things friendly.
Based on the comments this person made, that I described above, and the fact that you two are friends,
Would you think that this person is being genuine and might care about you romantically or would you just assume it was a friend letting you know that he/she appreciates your friendship?
What kind of friend sends mixed messages? What kind of friendship is this when it's clearly not platonic?
Maybe he truly sees you as a friend. "I care for you a lot"... as a human being/"friend."
But telling you to dress sexy, and leaving you hanging? Nuh-uh. Not cool.
LOL. I guess that's a good point. All the guys I've dated, or been in a relationship with have been a little crude like that, honestly.
Because this is something you are allowing to happen to you, perhaps its something about your demeanor that attracts guys like this. also, your friend or guys in general may see you as a person with great potentials if only you get it together. you don't have quite what it takes to be a full time love interest and I think they see a girl who can be very hot if only she do this or that. so in the mean time, they want to keep the friend status just incase that hot girl decide to come out one day all polished up. The minute he stops seeing you as that hot mess and start seeing you as that hot chick, everything will change.
Thanks everyone for the responses. I had figured it was friendly enough but was just curious. The texts that he sent were completely random and out of nowhere. I had no idea why he even sent them to be honest.
Only reasons i can think of is that the day before I told him I was getting a makeover and he was acting weird about it and asking me why. Then I asked him if he could tell me the most annoying things i do so that I can work on myself because I plan to start trying to actively date in a couple of months but wanted to work on the qualities that I think a guy might find annoying. So he told me the things that he felt I did that were annoying to him. He said he hates when I send him super long messages because he doesn't feel like reading them, he hates how emotional I get about things, and he doesn't like when I constantly ask him for advice on dating or on guys.
But like I said he sent me that message about not changing anything a day later(yesterday night). And it was random.
because he know if you get that makeover that's it for him, some guy will want you as his full time girl friend and most likely the end of his relationship as it is today.
What kind of friend sends mixed messages? What kind of friendship is this when it's clearly not platonic?
Maybe he truly sees you as a friend. "I care for you a lot"... as a human being/"friend."
But telling you to dress sexy, and leaving you hanging? Nuh-uh. Not cool.
He didnt leave me hanging. I was not able to go to the party so technically I left him hanging. And I agree it isn't platonic. There is flirting, teasing and I know for a fact he used to like me. I also believe he is still attracted to me. But whether he likes me now as more than a friend or likes me romantically is what I was trying to decipher from the text. It can be interpreted several ways. He always says the phrase: "your a mess" it's a phrase he uses to say "your a trip" or "your sooo crazy etc" it's one of his most commonly used phrases that he's used on a variety of people whenever they've done something he thinks is silly, bold, funny , or crazy,
So that part of the text I've ignored for interpretation. The part, however, that I was curious about was the rest. And I probably should have made that clear in he op...
Last edited by Faith2187; 01-07-2014 at 03:59 PM..
What kind of friend sends mixed messages? What kind of friendship is this when it's clearly not platonic?
Maybe he truly sees you as a friend. "I care for you a lot"... as a human being/"friend."
But telling you to dress sexy, and leaving you hanging? Nuh-uh. Not cool.
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Originally Posted by ipaper
because he know if you get that makeover that's it for him, some guy will want you as his full time girl friend and most likely the end of his relationship as it is today.
I already get plenty of attention from men and he knows it. So I doubt that's it. Not to toot my horn but I know I'm attractive and get hit on by men all the time. I know that im considered a very atttactive girl amongst my type. My personality however is intense and I believe it's what makes it difficult for me to retain anything with men. Or at least with the last few men I've dated... With him I'm not sure. I mean he's obviously saying in the text that he likes me just the way I am. But i don't know if its a friendship like, a romantic like etc. and what his reasons were for sending it so randomly.
Last edited by Faith2187; 01-07-2014 at 04:03 PM..
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