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Not everyone is honest about their intentions, and not everyone is even honest to themselves about what they want. Some are confused and simply don't know.
That's the biggest danger of OLD. It makes genuine people instantly accessible to inaccessible people.
Believe me, after this last break-up, my ego shouted, "Go back online! Find someone else to date! There are other fish in the sea!" Because I'm astutely self-aware, I realized that this wasn't what I wanted nor needed. I remember the times when I went out with guys who were just totally confused, and although I know what it's like to hurt/be confused, I didn't appreciate their misuse of my time. That's what therapists are for.
A lot of people are not self-aware. They need the self-esteem boost, and OLD is the perfect vehicle. Quicker and cheaper than hanging out at a bar and spending money. Also, the other people on the other end of the wire can't read your body language, hear your tone of voice, see how you communicate in person, to make an informed decision.
I had a lengthy online engagement with a man who presented himself as being totally together. We met. He started crying right there in the restaurant because his fiancee had broken up with him. Two years before.
Because everyone should have a passion that is his or hers alone -- something that one doesn't share with one's spouse.
I have gone through extensive marriage/relationship counseling, and one of the bigger mistakes people make is choosing someone with their exact same interests. People change over the years and take on new hobbies and interests. Sure, you should have some things in common. Just not everything, and maybe not even most things.
A lot of people who do OLD fail miserably because they want a clone of themselves. This woman just got lucky. I don't think it had anything to do with "reverse engineering."
I don't see how excluding golf constitutes looking for someone with the "exact same interests".
I know LOTS of women that wouldn't want anything to do with a guy that considered himself a golf fanatic, and you can add me to that list. But I would have no problem being with someone that loved to play tennis, or mountain bike, surf, or build cars, for example. I do none of those things.
That's the biggest danger of OLD. It makes genuine people instantly accessible to inaccessible people.
Believe me, after this last break-up, my ego shouted, "Go back online! Find someone else to date! There are other fish in the sea!" Because I'm astutely self-aware, I realized that this wasn't what I wanted nor needed. I remember the times when I went out with guys who were just totally confused, and although I know what it's like to hurt/be confused, I didn't appreciate their misuse of my time. That's what therapists are for.
A lot of people are not self-aware. They need the self-esteem boost, and OLD is the perfect vehicle. Quicker and cheaper than hanging out at a bar and spending money. Also, the other people on the other end of the wire can't read your body language, hear your tone of voice, see how you communicate in person, to make an informed decision.
I had a lengthy online engagement with a man who presented himself as being totally together. We met. He started crying right there in the restaurant because his fiancee had broken up with him. Two years before.
OLD does not make anyone "instantly accessible". You should use common sense, just like meeting any other person in real life. Any idiot can "present himself as being totally together", and scam you or any other girl, if the girl is not sensible and using her head. It happens ALL the time, no matter where you found the person...online, or on the street in real life.
OLD does not make anyone "instantly accessible". You should use common sense, just like meeting any other person in real life. Any idiot can "present himself as being totally together", and scam you or any other girl, if the girl is not sensible and using her head. It happens ALL the time, no matter where you found the person...online, or on the street in real life.
Speaking of scamming, did anyone notice how easily she fell for her first OLD date's restaurant scam? He ordered enough food and wine for an army, then left? And she paid the bill, even though she hadn't ordered anything? That was weird. Legally, the restaurant couldn't force her to pay the bill.
That is quite possibly as repulsive a woman as I could imagine without being morbidly obese on top of a personality like that. But hey, she found a plug for that socket, good for her!
I now pronounce you: Keyboard & Wife
You may now kiss the mouse.
That was classic!
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