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Apparently some people missed the OP's post about a number of job openings for childhood development specialists in schools in her area...? And they didn't specify that a 4-year degree in that field was required.
Child development specialist does not sound like a teaching degree. Also, to assume those will be open after she finishes her degree is a bit far-fetched.
A college degree is out of the picture right now, she should accept that. It's time to be a big girl.
Apparently some people missed the OP's post about a number of job openings for childhood development specialists in schools in her area...? And they didn't specify that a 4-year degree in that field was required.
I'm not an expert on child development specialists, but according to this link it seems like she would need more than an associate's degree to get these jobs.
UPDATE
I brought up moving last night to be boyfriend (aka my fiance) and he laughed at the idea of me working on bettering myself and moving down once he's settled, likes it and I've finished school. His response was, "And... you want to still be in a relationship during this whole time?!" As he laughed and looked amazed. He told me if wasn't his fault that I went to school the first time and it didn't work out. Me wanting to go back to school is a waste of time and a waste of money. It wasn't his fault that I was too lazy to work. He said I was never going to make it, but said, Good luck, I hope you do with a strong layer of sarcasm. I got fed up and said, "It's not my fault either that you didn't want to find one of the many many jobs that are available here that have retirement plans and health benefits. And it's also not my fault that for some reason you now have two sets of kids from broken families. Congratulations." He said he didn't want to find a job like that because he still wanted to live his life.. SIGH.. As I said many times before. I was ready to settle down and have a family. Have one family under one roof, during the holidays have other family over and entertain.. He still wants to play like he's 20.
S.o, I think it's over I couldn't deal with all the put-downs, lack of understanding and lack of communication I had to endure during this conversation.
I hate to say it, but with both of you exchanging hurtful comments like that it's probably best it's over. You both have valid concerns and arguments but that child doesn't need to get caught up in and see that. It's to risky IMO to move that far under the circumstances. You might as well stay with your Mom and better yourself.
Apparently some people missed the OP's post about a number of job openings for childhood development specialists in schools in her area...? And they didn't specify that a 4-year degree in that field was required.
I'm just wondering if the OP really has an understanding of the requirements (or maybe is just being unclear.) She has an associates degree in web design... but is saying she wants to go into "teaching." If by "teaching" she means working at a daycare or preschool, or getting a low-paying job working as a teacher's aide, then she very well could get a position with just a few years more. If she meant as a public school teacher (which was what I assumed when she said the salary was decent), my concern is that in many states, you need a 4 year degree to get certified. If you do go an alternative certification route, it can still be difficult to actually get hired if you're competing against anyone who has a 4-year degree and traditional certification. The people who tend to have the most success going this route are those who have very in-demand skills (like experience in industry, a chemistry degree and a high school needs a chemistry teacher) or who are lucky enough to be in a place/time where there aren't enough applicants. OP may be in an area of the country where they're desperate for teachers, but I'd advise her to check around first, and look into what sort of education she needs for a reasonable shot at getting hired. But if she's looking to be like an elementary teacher, that's a really popular job, and parents/schools generally want someone with a degree in education, and a background in one of the core subjects, rather than an associates degree in web design. This isn't to say she couldn't eventually become a teacher... she just needs to make sure if that's what she wants to do that she sets out on a path that can make it happen, rather than she gets another degree that doesn't lead to employment and gives her more debt.
I'm not an expert on child development specialists, but according to this link it seems like she would need more than an associate's degree to get these jobs.
I'm just wondering if the OP really has an understanding of the requirements (or maybe is just being unclear.) She has an associates degree in web design... but is saying she wants to go into "teaching." If by "teaching" she means working at a daycare or preschool, or getting a low-paying job working as a teacher's aide, then she very well could get a position with just a few years more. If she meant as a public school teacher (which was what I assumed when she said the salary was decent), my concern is that in many states, you need a 4 year degree to get certified. If you do go an alternative certification route, it can still be difficult to actually get hired if you're competing against anyone who has a 4-year degree and traditional certification. The people who tend to have the most success going this route are those who have very in-demand skills (like experience in industry, a chemistry degree and a high school needs a chemistry teacher) or who are lucky enough to be in a place/time where there aren't enough applicants. OP may be in an area of the country where they're desperate for teachers, but I'd advise her to check around first, and look into what sort of education she needs for a reasonable shot at getting hired. But if she's looking to be like an elementary teacher, that's a really popular job, and parents/schools generally want someone with a degree in education, and a background in one of the core subjects, rather than an associates degree in web design. This isn't to say she couldn't eventually become a teacher... she just needs to make sure if that's what she wants to do that she sets out on a path that can make it happen, rather than she gets another degree that doesn't lead to employment and gives her more debt.
Maybe you're right. I'd assumed she'd done adequate research, based on her earlier comments, but maybe not.
She's planning on going back to school to get a BA and teaching certificate.
A BA in an education-related field and a teaching certificate would be great... and maybe I'm the one who misunderstood when she said she could do it in 2 years. I know a friend of mine who was formerly majoring in engineering decided at the beginning of his senior year he wanted to be a teacher assumed he could switch over and maybe graduate with another 2 years of classes. It actually took another 3 to meet all the requirements, do student teaching, etc. So OP needs to check carefully to see how many if any of her former courses may count towards the university's degree requirements, and make sure they have a respected student teaching program. I've heard horror stories where they send alt-cert student teachers in there unprepared and then they get reamed by their supervisor for what is really the preparatory program's fault, then they bomb their evaluations, either can't get the certification or can't get hired, etc...
Young lady, I'm going to give you some facts. First, there is an old rule called the golden rule. He with the gold makes the rules. You're bf is the one earning the money and you stay home. He is trying to give your family a better life, but you want to sit home and dictate to him, who is actually earning all the money so you can sit home and enjoy your baby.
Second, the south is growing with better opportunities and the north is not. The future is in the south. I just the Bureau of Labor Statistics web site. And here's the numbers. The total number of jobs decreased 50,000 in the last 6 months, which means people are being laid off and there are few job opportunities for them. That means a weak economy and its not good for a working man like your bf, since it depresses wages and decreases opportunities. On the other hand, SC is actually growing in the number of jobs, 9000 in the last 6 months. Plus he doesn't work in a nice warm office, but on a shop floor. That means its cold in the winter and not fun.
So my advice is to keep your family together, support your bf, and let him call the shots. Think of your child. Being raised without a father has many documented negative effects, in general, compared to being raised in a two parent home. You're an adult, time to start using your head and thinking of someone other than yourself.
Let him go do this thing, move in with your mom, hit him up for child support, and take care of your life. Sounds like he just wants to have his cake and eat it too.
Young lady, I'm going to give you some facts. First, there is an old rule called the golden rule. He with the gold makes the rules. You're bf is the one earning the money and you stay home. He is trying to give your family a better life, but you want to sit home and dictate to him, who is actually earning all the money so you can sit home and enjoy your baby.
No, it doesn't seem so. Not after his last crack about not wanting a job with benefits. He's not thinking of his family, that's becoming very clear. But she is. She's thinking of how to become a better provider for her son. He, however, has said he's willing to abandon her and his son to go to SC on basically a lark, to look for jobs without benefits, similar to what he has now.
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