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No, it would not affect my interaction. I would think it was cool to talk to a guy who is not only sober (a rarity in bars), but responsible enough to not drink and drive. I also like that he is making no attempt to drink to appear to "fit in" with his friends. Don't change a thing OP.
Sometimes when we go out I'll just drink diet coke. Might feel like going out to have a good time with the wife and friends but don't feel like drinking.
It's not that people are so obsessed with drinking, but a lot of times someone who doesn't drink at all will tend to look down on people who drink. It can be a little awkward if a guy and all his buddies are out drinking and having a good time and he either can't bring his girlfriend along because she'll judge them or mope the whole time and say "you know..... wwe should talk about your friends...... i don't think they're the best influence, maybe you shouldn't talk to them as much"
I'm not saying that's you.. but that's what comes to my head when a girl says she doesn't drink at all. It would mean she really couldn't hang with me and my friends or even me with my family.
No one cares if you're drinking or not. If you were at the bar and were talking to me, it wouldn't bother me if you were drinking water, pineapple juice or a beer.
However if you were drinking a non-alcoholic drink and saying how you hate alcohol and people who drink and saying how dumb the bar is.. I'd probably get up and walk away.
I don't drink because I'm allergic to both yeast and sulfites and I tend to not like to throw up on people. However, I've found if I tell people I'm allergic, they tend to not believe me and want me to drink so they can prove to me that I'm not.
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If I drink soda at a bar I tip like I'm drinking alcohol; it's only fair to the server and far more impressive to a lady.
I tip nicely as well. Not the server's fault I can't drink.
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Not everyone in a bar is drunk.
Not everyone without an alcoholic drink in a bar is sanctimonious.
Some of you really like to see polarity in everything, huh?
Welcome to the board. Things here are very black and white.
However I am completely unqualified to give advice on meeting women in bars. I have never had a relationship last more than a month with a woman whom I met in a bar, while all of my serious relationships, including my ex-wife as well as my girlfriend, developed without any booze involved for at least the first month, even on dates. I am not a big drinker and I could not date a woman who was. Whenever I find myself in a bar after midnight, the absolute last thing on anyone's mind is a long term relationship. I cannot imagine why a non drinker would want to meet drunk men/women unless their intentions were sleazy.
You got me way beat. I never had a relationship with someone I met in a bar.
Come to think of it I may not have ever had so much as a date with someone I met in a bar.
As others mentioned - not everyone in a bar is drunk.
You got me way beat. I never had a relationship with someone I met in a bar.
Come to think of it I may not have ever had so much as a date with someone I met in a bar.
As others mentioned - not everyone in a bar is drunk.
The last guy I dated I met in a bar. Should've taken my friend's then 18 year old daughter's advice of "you don't want to date someone you met in a bar." (Technically, I met him through Meetup, but it was still at a bar).
I'm sorry you had to deal with alcoholics only some of my aunts and uncles went through this. So I do feel your pain.
Both posters just have experiences that hit home for both of them.
Better than an Indian nickel or double sided coin contridicting.
Thanks.
BTW I wasn't judging them. I don't tell people not to drink. Its just my personal choice.
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However, I've found if I tell people I'm allergic, they tend to not believe me and want me to drink so they can prove to me that I'm not.
